BM is such a gem
I’m for the most part disengaged, so I try to keep myself out-of-the-know when skid is with BM during the school year.
But, last night DH brought up the fact that skid has started her mentrual. I responded with my usual hands-off approach of “Oh, really? When did you find this out?” Apparently, per one of DH’s phone calls with skid, BM told her to “Ask your dad to tell you about it”, when skid went into twenty questions of body anatomy.
Skid is 10. No wait. She JUST turned 11 a couple weeks ago.
I’m going back and forth between the shock of her starting so young, to laughing at the ridiculousness of BM’s I-cannot-be-bothered-with-this-life event attitude.
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Wait, she asked DH to tell
Wait, she asked DH to tell the child about her period? Why would DH know the ins and outs of periods? That's so ridiculous.
she was likely just trying to
she was likely just trying to embarrass him
That's what I think, too, but
That's what I think, too, but isn't she also embarrassing her child?
ehhh not necessarily. I told
ehhh not necessarily. I told my ex-h that I expected him to be fully versed in that kind of stuff in case they were with him and they asked him stuff.... We also raised our kids to be equally comfortable asking either parent about stuff.
That said... we also understand that sometimes, the same-sex parent is just the better one to explain certain things... and that if dd's have questions about female-hood that dh can't answer, he'll refer them back to me... but none of this "call your mother/father about that" passing the buck crap - handle the parenting on your time, thank you very much.... and the other will fill in the blanks if required.
My son asked me about... having alone time... I told him some stuff about it, gave him a book, and said that although I can talk to him about it, his dad is the one who would probably be the better help, just because he went through it.
stepmomfromhell, I'm so
stepmomfromhell, I'm so shocked at what the school did to your poor aunt! WHY?????? How did they even know each month when she was having her period?! Was she instructed to tell them so they could hide her??? :? :O
In elementary school, my best friend's mom told us that when she was a child, no one told her anything about menstruation, so when she got her period she thought she was dying!
My daughter is not even five and she has already been told this happens. Not really by my choice. She overheard me joking around with someone about it. I said something like "You want me to care about your problems, my vagina is bleeding!" So of course, I had to tell her it was something that happens in women and girls, and it means their body is healthy...
Weird, OP, that a mother would not choose to explain this and push it off onto the father.
I can easily see this being a
I can easily see this being a situation where BM couldn’t be bothered with gently educating skid prior to starting, and now that she has, will put that job off on everyone else - like she always does.
The trying to embarrass DH theory is a possibility, but I highly doubt it. DH really put himself into the role of having a daughter (now he has two). I legitimately thinks it’s a combination of BM being as dumb as a bag of rocks and not wanting to be bothered. It’s nuts!
I hope DH told his daughter
I hope DH told his daughter about hygiene, how to clean and handle the used stuff..... cause this might turn into a nightmare for you.
Seeing BM is not phased about this, on the next visit I will intervene and have a womanly talk with SD....