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I can not stand my step son

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Submitted by mnlover2010 on Sat, 04/10/2010 - 7:07pm

I have my first baby due in August. I have a step son who was 2 in March. The father only has his son Thursdays to Sundays and the bio mother gets him the rest of the week. I am very excited about my baby coming in August. I want to act like its my first, and I try too. I feel I have the right to act that way. The father of my baby is still up his sons butt. On Wednesday nights before he gets his son, its like he turns into a 10 year old. He forgets things and just doesn't know how to do anything. I have to say that my realtionship with the father pretty much ends while he has his son. Then, on Sundays after the child goes with his mother our relationship is alive again. Every time the father leaves his son cries no matter what he does, goes to the bathroom, walks to the living room, walks outside, the child cries. I CAN'T STAND IT! I want nothing to do with the child. I think the child is spoiled and rotten, and I would not care if I never saw him again. The child can ruin a fun day outside running in the sprinkler, by crying and screaming. Im done with everything. Its to the point where I do not even want to be around in the fathers life because of the child. I need help and advice.

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Scarlett's picture

Submitted by Scarlett on Sun, 04/11/2010 - 8:09am

Really helpful advice. Looks like you decide to stay?~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Just living is not enough. One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower. ~Hans Christian Anderson

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Submitted by unhappy2happy on Sat, 04/10/2010 - 7:54pm

Bootluff,,,clap,clap,clap,clap.. I'm sorry but WTH, this is a baby, a baby we are talking about here. I just don't get it at all...

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Sat, 04/10/2010 - 9:19pm

I agree with the previous posters. As he is only 2, he'll change and develop interests of his own.

You need to google "the terrible twos" because it sounds like his behavior is typical 2-year-old stuff. You can read advice on how to correct it. Reading that stuff can give you advice as to how to effectively deal with a two-year-old in a way that's positive for all of you.

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Submitted by sanity23 on Sat, 04/10/2010 - 11:53pm

I can understand that you would and deserve to be seen as having your first child, it kind of hurt knowing that experience was all mine. However, my son is two now and he does cry whenever we walk out of the room, maybe its just a two year old thing. He doesnt really understand that you are just going to the other room, etc. I know that my son is also pretty cranky because he is getting his two year molars. So maybe your ss is experiencing the same. Teething, you will find out, is a difficult task for the first year then you get a bit of a break until those two year molars come in and then watch out! I think he is more cranky now than I remember him being with all his other teeth. Its really hard to be away from your kid as well, I know when my and his father were seperated for awhile it was hell for me to drop him off with his father. I had never really spent a nite without my son so a few days is even tougher, i couldnt imagine a whole week. Im sure things will adjust though. Good luck.

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Submitted by purpledaisies on Thu, 06/24/2010 - 11:59pm

I ahve to agree with the other posters this is a baby. He doesn't understand. While I understand what you are going through and you are preggo. I know you are asking for help and you came to the right place. I think you might need to step back for a little while and see him as a baby that is being passed back and forth. plus he senses that you don;t want to be around him. Take some time for yourself and reflect on the fact that he is a baby is not trying to cause any pain or purposefully upset you or anything that older skids do. Now that you are preggo you need to have as less stress as you can get so I suggest you have some me time while ss2 is visiting your dh.