Let me start by saying that I am not new here, I just closed the old account since I no longer can trust that my blogs on here are my private thoughts. I'm struggling immensely right now with the issues of my mother's betrayal to DH and I, DH now kissing BM's ass because of said betrayal, and my hatred of my SS8.
I just don't know why I hate him, and I am hoping that blogging here and working through it, I might be able to make things better.
As the kid gets older, I hate him more and more. It doesn't get better. I love SD10 - so it isn't an issue of just hating my skids and hating that they are here all of the time.
Here's what I hate:
1. His baby talk
2. His constant climbing and laying all over DH. He pushes the rest of us out of the way.
3. He's a compulsive liar
4. He's a slob - even with a daily chore list, he is unable to make his bed/clean up his room/put his clothes in the hamper. He leaves his clothes on the floor and towel from his shower on the floor. Toys are left where ever. He throws trash in the yard/floor instead of in the garbage.
5. His talking back
6. His whining
7. His total lack of manners - farting, burping, pissing against the house
8. His laziness
9. How rude he is to others - doesn't say hello or goodbye when spoken to
10. He mimics others when they speak to him
11. His constant crying like a baby over everything
12. Basically, if there's ever a good or poor decision to be made, SS makes the poor decision 100% of the time
I have tried so hard with this kid. I'm writing all of this to see if someone else has some insight into why I hate this kid so much. Is it as simple as my list above, and I can't stand him for being what he is? Or is it deeper?
One of the things my "mother" told BM is that I think that SS has mental issues. I stand by this, and told DH that I stand by this. I believe in addition to having ADHD, he also will be diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder when he's older. He said that SS does NOT have mental problems, and if he does, its because of this situation (I took that to mean me) and he will get him the help he needs.
I try so hard because it also hurts to loathe a child that belongs to my DH - a man I love and hold in very high regard. I don't want to hurt my DH with my feelings, but my feelings are getting more and more obvious with time. DH says that I automatically blame SS when something wrong has been done and no one is fessing up. Here's the thing, it IS always SS, and to add insult to injury, my BS2 is always blamed for everything...things that he couldn't have possible done. This just makes me even more pissed off.
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Let me start by saying that I
Let me start by saying that I am not new here, I just closed the old account since I no longer can trust that my blogs on here are my private thoughts. I'm struggling immensely right now with the issues of my mother's betrayal to DH and I, DH now kissing BM's ass because of said betrayal, and my hatred of my SS8.
I just don't know why I hate him, and I am hoping that blogging here and working through it, I might be able to make things better.
As the kid gets older, I hate him more and more. It doesn't get better. I love SD10 - so it isn't an issue of just hating my skids and hating that they are here all of the time.
Here's what I hate:
1. His baby talk
2. His constant climbing and laying all over DH. He pushes the rest of us out of the way.
3. He's a compulsive liar
4. He's a slob - even with a daily chore list, he is unable to make his bed/clean up his room/put his clothes in the hamper. He leaves his clothes on the floor and towel from his shower on the floor. Toys are left where ever. He throws trash in the yard/floor instead of in the garbage.
5. His talking back
6. His whining
7. His total lack of manners - farting, burping, pissing against the house
8. His laziness
9. How rude he is to others - doesn't say hello or goodbye when spoken to
10. He mimics others when they speak to him
11. His constant crying like a baby over everything
12. Basically, if there's ever a good or poor decision to be made, SS makes the poor decision 100% of the time
I have tried so hard with this kid. I'm writing all of this to see if someone else has some insight into why I hate this kid so much. Is it as simple as my list above, and I can't stand him for being what he is? Or is it deeper?
One of the things my "mother" told BM is that I think that SS has mental issues. I stand by this, and told DH that I stand by this. I believe in addition to having ADHD, he also will be diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder when he's older. He said that SS does NOT have mental problems, and if he does, its because of this situation (I took that to mean me) and he will get him the help he needs.
I try so hard because it also hurts to loathe a child that belongs to my DH - a man I love and hold in very high regard. I don't want to hurt my DH with my feelings, but my feelings are getting more and more obvious with time. DH says that I automatically blame SS when something wrong has been done and no one is fessing up. Here's the thing, it IS always SS, and to add insult to injury, my BS2 is always blamed for everything...things that he couldn't have possible done. This just makes me even more pissed off.
Can anyone offer me any advice?
Some kids are just not
Some kids are just not likeable. And it can just be nails on a chalkboard to be around them.