"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
a pregnant woman. Sorry, but if your azz keeps talkin', you're probably going to continue to have to do alot of kissin'.

At least you have the baseballs to admit it!

And no, I don't regret one thing I've said about the skids. Don't think I've ever made a negative remark about SD14 ('cept to tell H she cannot nap in OUR bed-there are plenty of other beds here).

Far as SD17...ummm, any remarks I've made regarding her were actually well deserved.

I have been getting zero sleep as well after living with my BF and having the skids EW for almost a year. I work during the week and then when the restful weekend comes I go to bed at btwn 12-2am (so I can spend time with BF) and am woken up by children at 6 or 7am (after having only like 4-5 hrs of sleep a night during the week). It's now beginning to slowly rip any sanity I have left apart.

Anyways, as for "talking out my arse" I have too. Just a little while ago I was talking to BF about our relationship. We had gotten into a fight in the afternoon before the children were comming. He said some extremely disrespectful things that made me completely loose it. What he said was bad enough for me to tell him to not bother comming home.

He said that his kids were comming, ect. I told him he should have thought about that before he talked to me that way. That I don't need to be disrespected in my own home and it's not my problem, and if he did come home he was definately going to have to deal with me the entire evening, regardless if the skids were there or not. He said he would call the police. WHAT??? For being mad and not hiding it?????? Whatever???

We sat and talked about it when he came home. I told him that at times it may not be appropriate to have the children come over, like when we are fighting really bad or when one of us is extremely ill.

I explained that for this to work, our relationship had to always come first not his children comming EW regardless of what is going on in our lives.

I said his children are just that, children, they will always be there and if they have to miss one night because we are going through a really tough time and because they don't need to see that anyway, then that needs to have precedence over one night out of his EW visits. He got upset of course. What he heard it "Put me before your children." Which IS, KINDA, what I was saying.

However, what I said woke him up a little. the next weekend I was not feeling well. I prepared everything for their usual visit, then get a call from BF saying he was going to have BM keep them for the night because I was not feeling well and didn't get any sleep. I did not ask him to do this or have an attitude so he would, he just took it totatlly upon himself to do it and I was thankful.

I have said things to my DH that I regret about SS Zippy16-thank goodness I found this site to vent on.

I try to remember that DH loves Zippy as much as I love my BS's and that he really is doing the best he can (bless his clueless heart)-

Zippy16 is an odd duck-but I guess I would be too if I had two clueless parents-another thing I have to keep in mind.

AND teenagers are strange animals to begin with!

I have often wondered why -in most cases-kids become teenagers when some of us are going through menopause?? Nuclear war as far as I am concerned-or God has a sense of humour?

Step Parenting – you might need to step back before you step in something!

I would say you should talk to her, but women don't tend to like to listen as much as men do. Oh... i suppose it's not so much they like to as we make you listen. :evil: So anyway i told my boyfriend about a year ago that i needed to move out because i just couldn't handle going from being a free 18 year old to a mother of 3 (soon to be 4 at the time). I have done it for 3 years and i think i have handled it marvelously but the stress is just eating at me more than ever, on top of trying to make a relationship work without any of those skills lol. Anyway if you think your wife would understand you could tell her that you jumped in from being childless to having 3 kids all at once and you just feel like with the stress of your job you need space to prepare yourself to be the best dad you can be for ALL the kids, because it WILL get harder with another one in the house. Maybe also tell her you would be more than willing to take the kids for a weekend every once in a while because as i'm sure you know pregnant women need rest too. You DID accept the responsibility of all her kids when you married her but she has to give you some leeway to feel overwhelmed by it. Also you do need to stick by your wife, especially with her being prego, so if you do move out you cannot let that take away from spending alot of time with her... but again if you're frustrated then you will not be able to do your job when the bebe comes. Trust me. Good Luck!

"Everyone is entitled to be stupid, but some abuse the privilege"

I was going through my hubbys cell phone from work, and was seeing if anyone called.. Okay DAMNIT I was being nosey so what!!! LOL!!! Well I was looking through his text inbox and found oh yeah what happened to her?? Im like happened to her and then I saw the number and it was his exwife and the text the ex sent was deleted but my hubby was to stupid he didnt think to delete what he sent her..So I was beyond pissed I was so mad, I told him he could take those two bitches meaning his DD and exwife and stick them so far up his ass that they could spit outta his throat..Was I sorry that I said it no, I was sorry for not saying more..But I hate when he hides things like that from me and as far as I know that was the last time he hid something from me..Then again I wouldnt know bc he doesnt bring his work cell home anymore!!!!

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.
Sir Winston Churchill..

but while doing so, let me just say that you gave me the biggest laugh I have had all week....and I really needed it! Thanks!

You are truly a gem. I have laughed a hearty laugh and even had DH laughing with me. One teeny tiny piece of advice here...Ummmm maybe you and your azz should rehearse some of these conversations before you and your azz NEED that apartment and not as a honeycomb hideout. Gawd I love your stories. It is good to see that you can laugh at yourself and know when you were out of line. Toooooo funny I tell ya.

As far as regretting something...NOPE. I am careful in what I say and I have usually pondered how to say it in a nice and tactful way so that it is well received. Even still it isn't always received as intended. The problem I have is that my inner beyotch sometimes has a lot to say, but I do try to keep her quiet, but nope can't say that I've ever had any problems with an outspoken azz.

Just because one opens her legs twice, does not a mother make! ~ ME ~ }:-P

I have regretted a lot of things I say in the moment...but not really with DH. I'm usually very careful in how I speak to him (I gotta deal with him the rest of my life, right?!) There was one time that I said something that he took th wrong way though, but I didn't know it until a couple days later. We were in the car and he was telling me about something SS had said on the phone. It went like this:

DH: You know what SS said about he next time he is supposed to come out to visit?

Me: That he's not coming anymore?

DH: Nooo...that he wants to see Mt Rushmore!

Me: Does he actually think MT Rushmore is in our state?

DH: (laughing) yea! I told him thats nice but we live in NC, not SD. SS said oh, I thought it was there.

Now, My comment about him not coming anymore was because when I was 12 my dad moved out of state and I was getting to the age that I didn't want to leave my friends for the summer to visit my dad (sad, but apparently I was a selfish pre-teen! Imagine that!) DH knows this, because I have talked to him about it and how I feel guilty now that I'm an adult that I didn't want to spend any of my summer off visiting some strange state just to see my dad. I had felt like he was the one that moved so if he wanted to see me he had to come to me. So I wouldn't be surprised if SS didn't want to come visit as he gets older, I almost expect it because I see it a lot and was like that myself. But my DH brought it up a couple days later and asked if I had a problem being around SS all the sudden. I said "no, why?" And he says "because the other day you said that hopefully he wouldn't come visit anymore" :jawdrop: Thats not what I said, and it certainly wasn't what I meant. I said "I didn't say hopefully and I didn't imply thats what I would like." I then explained what I meant and he felt better. I'm glad he brought it up because my heart broke when I heard that he thought I said something like that, knowing how fragile their relationship already is. I felt really bad, even if its not what I intended to say

"Nobody will ever win the battle of the sexes. There's too much fraternizing with the enemy"

I loved your blog and it gave me a good laugh...Not that your azz got you into trouble but your way with words is very amusing!!

After 10 years with this step snot under my roof my azz has done plenty of flapping!! LOL...However, I find it much easier now to just keep my azz shut because it just causes conflict and causes "sugardaddy" to just ooze more misplaced sympathy for his lil dumplin then he already has.

However, last night Step Snot was really late coming home after the bus dropped her off from school and Dh is going on about how "what if she has been kidnapped?", "what if she is in a gutter somewhere??? blah blah blah...

I had to clinch my azz cheeks real tight because "Yeah, like I could get that lucky!" almost came flapping out!! LOL...

I loved your blog and it gave me a good laugh...Not that your azz got you into trouble but your way with words is very amusing!!

After 10 years with this step snot under my roof my azz has done plenty of flapping!! LOL...However, I find it much easier now to just keep my azz shut because it just causes conflict and causes "sugardaddy" to just ooze more misplaced sympathy for his lil dumplin then he already has.

However, last night Step Snot was really late coming home after the bus dropped her off from school and Dh is going on about how "what is she was kidnapped?", "what is she was in a gutter somewhere?" blah blah blah...

I had to clinch my azz cheeks real tight because "Yeah, like I could get that lucky!" almost came flapping out!! LOL...

Between you and disgusted, I was rolling...I know this is serious stuff but the way you both wordsmith cracks me up. Thanks!!!!!!!!!!!