On the verge of a rampage!!!!
I could seriously buy a plane ticket right now just to fly out and strangle BM!!!!! We have gone an entire month with NO child support!!!! She is so worthless!!!! I'm 2 weeks away from having another baby and I'm having to be more worried about money. She has no f'ing clue how much it costs to raise her 2 kids. Their school lunches alone cost us $120 a month. They have therapy, doctor visits, my SD needs surgery in San Diego.. My husband makes good money, but my Skids come with a lot of odd expenses and they are accumulating right here with a new baby on the way.
And, to top it all off, my husband is taking out his upset with all of this on me, his current, very pregnant, wife. He should be wanting to make her head roll. Just what I need right now...
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why don't you just buy two
why don't you just buy two tickets and a chaperone and send the skids back to their mom? problem solved, if only it were that easy.... good luck
I would do it in a heartbeat,
I would do it in a heartbeat, but the bitch lost all physical custody because she thinks it's okay to let all of her boyfriends beat her kids... I am still wondering if she's even human.
That is terrible!! I wish I
That is terrible!! I wish I had some advice for you. What a loser that BM is.
Have you reported her? Maybe
Have you reported her? Maybe she wants to spend a few nights in jail. Some BM's are very quick to turn our DH's in when they are a few hours late with payment, I think DH's should stand up and do the same. Good Luck!
Here's the cherry on top of
Here's the cherry on top of it all - my husband doesn't have any court order for the child support. The judge wanted BM to pay $1400/month child support. Well, during mediation, she pleaded with my husband and claimed she couldn't afford that. So, they agreed to work the child support out without the help of the court. So, it was never put in black and white on the custody agreement. We only get $500/month for 2 kids from her. It doesn't sound like much, but it really puts us in a rough spot without it. My husband would have to take her to court to get anything done about it.
We have no idea what to do. We can't afford to take her to court right now. We're still paying off the lawyers from the most recent time! She's just going to get away with it and it is enraging!! And she's on her Twitter talking about going to concerts and bars, partying it up - like spitting in our faces. She knows we see that and have to think, "Well, there's where the child support is going.."
I'm definitely not going to be as cooperative with her (like I was ever before, lol).. But, looks I'm going to have a harder time hearing the phone ring when she wants to talk to the kids. If she's not going to do her measly part in funding me to raise her kids, then I'm definitely not going out of my way for her deadbeat ass.
If anyone knows what we could do without having to lawyer up, I am all ears!!
I *almost* had sympathy until
I *almost* had sympathy until you said there's no court order. She doesn't have to pay you SQUAT and there's not a thing you can do about it.
The good news: you don't need a lawyer to file for CS. You should have an administrative agency in your area that will handle the CS case for you. They'll file, you'll get an administrative order (instead of a judicial one) and they'll enforce the order.
Give it a try.
Yeah, when my husband told me
Yeah, when my husband told me the CS was not in the custody agreement, I flipped out. I couldn't believe she had been paying at all. I think the only thing that was keeping her paying was that she fears my husband and I. She knows we relish is taking her ass to court. I've looked in to some of the child support collection agencies here in California. Most of the ones I have found won't work with us until she has missed up to $5,000 in child support payments, which is crazy that some people would wait until they have gone without CS that long to act. We're still trying to find someone who will work with us without it costing thousands. The last contact we had with her, she claimed she was fired from her job and had no income coming in..
Have you contacted
Have you contacted DCSS?
Also, you can file without an attorney.
I had contacted DCSS last
I had contacted DCSS last week and they told me it would be difficult without having a court order, but not impossible. Surprisingly, checked the bank account last night and the child support was there. Don't know what happened to make her finally pay, but she did. It still has me worried about the next months. She is unemployed and only gets her G.I. Bill money if she's enrolled in college full-time, which she isn't. I think we got lucky with her finally paying this time, but we need to do something to ensure we don't have problems again.
I sympathize with your plight
I sympathize with your plight seems like it is classic BM behavior to cheap out on actually paying for their children. They figure that they were the oven the financial responsibility falls solely on the sperm donor. My SS's BM has no paid one single penny in CS in over 2.5 years. She pays not a single bill for her son, we even found out that she pawned the only bill that she was paying for him (cellphone) off onto her own mother a few months ago. Officially bringing her grand total of contributions to the raising process of her son to $0.00! Good job Supermom. Maybe now that you are pregnant with a shiny new baby you will realize that children actually do cost money.
I don't get your last
I don't get your last sentence and if it was directed towards me. I kind of have to laugh because I figure you have never read any of my previous posts. I have had my Skids since they were 1 & 2. I potty trained them, got them off bottles, have taught them everything they know. On top of that, I have a 1 year old who is my first biological child, and I am pregnant again, due October 3rd. I guess you could say, it's a bit of an understatement if I said I know a thing or two about raising a kid and their costs. BM has never done anything for these skids other than lock them in closets when they frustrated her and let boyfriends abuse them. Oh, and they were still in diapers when the abuse occurred. She's a piece of work.. I'm proud to say that my skids have never called her 'mom'. They call me 'mom' and her by her first name. They don't even think they came from her womb! She is nothing more to them than a distant relative that occasionally calls them a few times a month and asks about their day. I pray for the day she just gives up and signs the kids away. It's mind boggling that she hasn't already done it. She tried visiting with them this summer for 18 days and she couldn't tolerate them for just that amount of time.