OT...FH has gained weight...
FH and I had a party a week and a half ago with both our families and apparently his family was telling him that he's gained a lot of weight since we've been together... My mom heard his family saying that and of course made a comment about him actually eating home cooked meals now instead of take out (like his ex-wife used to order). I know FH has gained weight since we've been together but I don't cook unhealthy...I've actually LOST 30 lbs since we've been together! He has said that he is unhappy about his weight so I've started helping him with his diet...I make healthier lunches...healthier dinners...been shopping healthier and trying to encourage him to get back to working out. I don't want to overstep my boundries though. I know how it feels being overweight and people saying things to you about losing weight (I was 278 lbs at my highest and am 147 lbs now) and I don't want to be one of those people to FH even though I know he needs to lose weight...especially since he's already had a heart attack a few years ago. Any advice on how I can step up the weight loss for him without hurting his feelings?
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Good ideas fearless! I'm
Good ideas fearless! I'm going to get him walking before our dinner because he just wants to take a nap after dinner...and like I said I don't cook unhealthy food...I cook a protien, a veggie and starch...maybe I should cut out the starch for our meals though... How I lost the weight...I don't have any sweets anymore....I actually used to get up in the middle of the night and eat kit kats, cookies or chocolate. Another way I think I lost weight is that I'm not sitting 8 hours behind a desk anymore...I seem to be a lot more active at home and taking care of the house and skids and FH.... I do also think that stress is a part of the weight loss too...nowadays I don't have an appitite when I'm stressed. Weird, I know because I used to eat when I was stressed...I totally understand both sides, so each their own! I was happy heavy and thinner.
Make it a Couples thing
Workout together is a good way to spend time together and get healty. Also, it is said that you will stick to the program because there is that support.
I totally agree Maybe...and
I totally agree Maybe...and I told FH that I would work out with him but he said no. He used to be a bouncer and worked out all the time with other bouncers and wants to have a weight lifting partner and I'm more the cardio and tone girl. I told him that he should call my bro, one of his bro's or one of his buddies but I feel he's embarassed...
One of BF relatives said
One of BF relatives said that is the sign of contentment! So while it upset him, it is a compliment to you. BF gained weight also, b/c he wasn't out partying all the time b/c he enjoyed coming home to me.
Bearcub, you beat me to the
Bearcub, you beat me to the punch, I was going to say the exact same thing! LOL Plan a walk each day or both of you can join a gym together, some gyms offer a buy one get one free deal. Keep cooking healthy and just support each other.
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Good idea PnutButta but I
Good idea PnutButta but I may sound like a man right now but I'm almost finding myself a little less attractive to him lately...not just physically (because I've been there) but emotionally too. He DOES seem to be unhappy with his body unless it's in the moonlight...if you know what I mean... Don't mean to get in to too many details but we used to take showers together...have sex all the time...etc but now that I've lost weight and he's gained it all our little activities have slowed down...
That sucks..
But is there really a kind way to tell someone that they need to lose weight?
Tough one. I would just schedule activities for yourself and then just invite him along. That way he's getting exercise and you may even find a new activity you enjoy doing together. It's worth a shot.
Men can be hard sometimes, their ego's can be a little fragile. Good for you losing that weight though!! You must be damned proud of yourself (and you should be!).
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thank you pnutbutta! I am
thank you pnutbutta! I am proud of myself...especially when people notice and say something. However I want FH to feel the same way but don't know how to get him there...I'm thinking lately that he needs a push or encouagement but like I said before I don't want to hurt his feelings. You do have a good idea though about activities and inviting him...I'm going to try it! Thank you sister!