Seriously...he is so crabby when his kids are here. He is usually manageable when its the weekends but when they are here in excess of that...which has been this whole entire week he has been such a pain in the ass. I realize that neither of these children were planned and and that he never wanted kids...but damn...there here....they exist....step up man! I did not marry my DH for his sensitivity that is for sure. He is so self absorbed, he is #1 in his world, he loves his kids the best he is capable and I know he wants to be a good dad. He just isn't capable or doesn't have it in him. Usually on the weekends I am home and I am able to care for them. This entire week they have been here I had to work so they had to stay home with him. Basically SD13 has to do everything for SD5 while DH either sits on the computer or lays in the bedroom watching TV. WTF!? I call once a day to make sure that the important things are done...showers, clothes, vitamin, teeth brushed. Today he got pissed that I called and reminded him yet again. Guess what though...they hadn't been done. Seriously I am not sending these kids home to their BM's and waiting around for the phone call regarding neglect...this IS what would happen if I didn't ensure things were taken care of. When these children are in my home they will be properly taken care of. No reason SD13 should have to do everything for SD5. He's here damn dad...he needs to get off of his ass and take care of his kid. It's so frustrating to me. Being a dad just cramps his style. It's a whole week where everything doesn't revolve around him. God forbid. Next year I am taking the days that they are here off...then this frustration can be avoided.