I have been with my husband for 4.5 years, and married for 2. We live on the east coast, and he has two teenage step kids that live on the west coast. When I first met him this did not phase me at all - oh how naive I was! A little information on the BM - She is an ex-stripper, who now cleans houses naked for a living. She is a meth addict, and has done jail and prison time for both drug usage, and identity theft. Her many victims of ID theft include my husband, and her two kids.