Idk if anyone has disengaged from both partner and step child but I am doing so now. I spent the entire day cleaning the whole house by myself of course cuz no one else does shit around here. Partner thinks cuz he pays most of the bills he doesn't have to do shit else. I still pay half the rent and my car and anything for myself and most things for our son and half the groceries but he pays like the small bills alone because he requested it be that way.

So a while back my bf and I got in an argument and he mentioned that his ex told him his daughter said I ignore her when she is with us. That I don’t talk to her or do anything with her. I was extremely upset even cried because I felt like that was a slap in the face. I literally do everything for her and we would eat dinner of her choice every night together and watch a movie or one of her shows together and sometimes have dessert all while her dad is at work. We spent most days together because he works a lot. She is 11. I don’t understand why she would lie.

Idk how anyone does it. I try my hardest to be a good partner to my boyfriend and be the best person to his daughter and do everything I can for her. Take care of her, spoil her, treat her well. And it just seems like no matter what I do she has to always do something to make me uncomfortable. Everytime she is here. I’m pregnant with her brother. Me and her dad have been together for over two years I’ve been in her life doing things for her more than her own parents sometimes. You’d think she would see it or feel something. We are sitting watching tv enjoying time as a family.

Feeling a little stressed for when the baby comes. I have a 10 year old step daughter who is with us 50/50 week by week and her mom isn’t as strict on covid precautions as we are. Like she still travels with her and they go eat at places and her little cousin is in daycare and she’s around her a lot. I’m worried that when the baby comes it’s not going to be a safe environment. We also aren’t told about things sometimes and end up finding out from my step daughter after the fact and it’s just scary. I’m not really sure what we can do.