Things have been quite until lately. You can see past comments for more info but DH & I were awarded custody in August of SS16 and SD8. First off, (pat my back) SD8 made honor roll and perfect attendance for the 1st time ever!! She failed kindergarten and almost failed 1st grade. In 3 months with us she has gone from failing to honor roll. Good for her!! Wonder what BM thinks about that? I went to lunch the other day with SD and one of the parents started telling me how BM and the cafeteria coordinator do not like each other. And BM got into it with him and went to the principal and complained on him. He has been there forever. BM got kicked out of visiting the school. We thought it was when we got the custody order in and gave them a copy but I now think it has more to do with BM causing scenes at school. Of course, BM is telling everyone WE got her kicked out. Now, tell me if I am being too difficult or mean and don’t realize it. So, go back a week or so ago. SD had visitation with BM on Fri, Sat, and Sun. Monday there’s a cheer game and BM saw SD then too. Tues BM calls and says she needs to talk to SD. Well, we don’t jump when BM beckons. We let SD ask to call her BM and then we let her (usually anywhere from 2-4 times a week). Then Wed BM calls again. SD didn’t ask to call BM Tues or Wed. Thurs. I took SD to her 1st Girl Scouts meeting and she called her BM that night. BM wanted to tell SD that she’s getting a puppy on Fri. I mean how cruel to do that to an 8 year old when they won’t be there for another week. Fri SD wants to call BM to see if she got puppy and tells me when she’s off the phone…BM went to a bakery and she’s going to come by on tomorrow and drop off a bagel for me at the door. We had a party to go to that afternoon. GRRRRRR…. Sat SD calls her BM and she comes over. The next thing I know is SD is coming to me saying “I don’t want to do to the party anymore. I want to play with the puppy and mom said it’s ok if I stay with her while you go to the party.” What excuse me, no you are going with us. Sun SD calls her BM and asks her to go to the girl scouts meeting. What!?!? I’m sorry no way. I’m not signing her up for this so it can be a visitation time. That is what happened at cheerleading. SD would sit in her BM lap for half the game and practices and not participate. So we told SD that when she is with us we will go with her to do things and when she is with her BM she will do them with her. Then we all get to do things with her. BM sent a text asking when and where the meetings are. I replied,”The Girl Scout meetings do not fall on your visitation. SD is aware. When it is on your time you can take her. There is a sleepover this weekend if you want her to go.” BM talks to SD after that. She got SD upset because she wouldn’t name the puppy what SD wanted and then BM tells SD when you move back home you can name a puppy. SD said mom that is impossible. Then BM starting texting DH and I. We are only hurting SD blah blah blah. I thought we were pretty reasonable. We didn’t say BM can’t be included. Just that she can do the things when it is her time with SD. Keep in mind she doesn’t have custody or joint only visitation rights. I think we are fair. Any comments?? Sorry so long had to get it out all at once.