This part of the friendship I will be talking about a few different arguments, disagreements, misunderstandings that occurred.

One particular tiff that happened which was an occurring one was when I would send a 1 or 2 word text message to her. She would then send a message back asking if she did something wrong to offend me. After this happened so many times I would get annoyed and not be so nice with my message back to her which in the end I always apologized for. Another is I felt like a lot of the time I was walking on eggshells when it came to my opinion on different things. I would say my opinion and she would take it the complete opposite way and take it personally. For example: we were talking about how kids only get to make 1 gift in school for their parent so they have to choose which parent gets a gift when there are two house’s so to me its sad. So I said, I wonder if the child thinks about both parents and is it hard for them to choose? Is the parent that doesn't’t get the gift mad about it? So my friend would go to a place in her mind trying to imagine ME purposely being mean to her child if I didn't’t get a gift from her since Mom has said thousands of times that her and I were pretty much parenting together. I have gotten gifts from her child on mothers day multiple times.

Before I go any further I do want to say my friend is a great friend, she would go above and beyond for anyone and she’s a great mother. So when we argued we both got really confused on why. Mainly me.

In the 8 years of our friendship there were only 3 big arguments and this was the first big one… First of all I want to say that I had a big pet peeve with people watching me eat or just hovering while I ate. My friend her child myself and my husband went out for dinner one night, we get our food, the waitress comes back to check on us at the same time is saying hello to the baby. The waitress proceeds to stay there and have a conversation with mom as well as picking the baby up. Now at this point I wasn't’t eating, I was waiting for her to walk away. Once she did my food was cold by then and mom looked at me and asked what was wrong, I told her my issue with eating in front of people and how I thought it was weird for the waitress to pick up the baby. I know I’m not the baby’s mom or even step mom and I respect that. Mom proceeds to say that she is her mom and thought it was okay for her baby to be picked up. I didn't’t argue with her because it wasn't’t my place. I could tell mom was in a mood so we just said by right there. I was supposed to watch her child the next day so when the time came and passed when I was supposed to get her I texted mom, I got nothing back till later that night.

Pretty much the next conversation went like this… She thought I was judging her parenting with the comment I made at dinner and thought I needed a break from both her and the child. She said my comment freaked her out. (This should have been my first sign). Well things got heated a little bit and she thought I was ending our friendship, I kept telling her I wasn't’t, that she was reading into things, and reading what I was saying the wrong way. Well it took a good week or two to move on from this argument but it was never forgotten.

Another issues that we have always had was the way she would always leave if she didn't’t like something I said or I didn't’t agree with something she said. She would get quiet and start picking her things up and one time she told her child “come on baby, we’re leaving, aunty doesn't’t want us here anymore.” When in fact I never said that.

I’m going to end part 2 there, sorry if it seems a little whiny and childish, that's exactly how the arguments were. If you liked reading this part hit the like button and you will get the fight that ended our friendship the first time.