Hi, I have actually attempted to post a previous time but I think it didnt go through properly because when I logged back on I couldnt find it, so if this is a repeat for anyone my apologies.

I am currently engaged to my boyfriend of a little over one year. We met abroad while both working and when my work contract finished I followed him to another country, and then now to his country, Brazil. When we first met he seemed like the answer to my prayers, the perfect guy. When he told me he had a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship I immediatly got a bit antsy because I have dated men with children and it has NEVER worked out well for me. (Backstory: My first ex had a crazy stripper ex wife who eventually drove me so crazy I left him. My other ex was separated and "Divorcing" to my knowledge then after dating for months I finally spoke with his kids mom and she flipped out and called me a homewrecker and said they were happily married. I broke up with him and they are now back together. )
So again, when my current boyfriend told me he had a daughter I kind of freaked out in my head but he was so perfect I decided to take things slow. Of course she was in a different country but he called regularly to see how she was and always sent money. One day when he was talking to his ex he passed me the phone and she was extrememly nice, said we were welcome in her and her fiance's home whenever we want to visit, that my boyfriend is a nice guy and best wishes. So i felt good with that, I felt like this time it was going to be different. We even went to visit twice I brought her a gift and the ex was almost overly nice, trying too hard, one time during her daughters play time she decided my boyfriend and I should be like the prince and princess and get married and she "married" us with the daughters play rings. She let us stay the night, cooked us dinner and we all went out on the town with her fiance as well. I felt like she always went overboard and it annoyed me but we didnt live close to them so it didnt develop into a huge issue. I admit over the next year I sometimes felt he spoke a little too long on the phone with her and I told him that it wasnt right that she asked her daughter if she wanted to speak with her dad(she always denied) rather than just putting her on the phone( she was 4 years old, come on) but in general it wasnt a big problem.
Fast forward to now. His ex has broken up with her fiance and moved back to her home country. So of course, my fiance wanted to spend time with his daughter and asked me to come spend a few months here until his visa to come move with me back in the US goes through. I was excited to come meet his family see his country learn the language etc etc. We arrived the day of his daughters birthday my living Hell began for me.
His ex has a big family that is all close and live together in one house in the ghetto and are always all at home. we arrived to that house and I have never seen my boyfriend more happy or more comfortable. He is extremely close with her brothers, her sister her mom, everyone! we spent practically the entire first 3 days with her whole family and I felt ridiculously uncomfortable. Add in the language barrier factor. And she also is close to his family she calls his mom her mother in law and his sister her sister in law (they were never actually married)Then I glanced at the coffee table and there was a framed picture of my boyfriend and his ex! on the coffee table in the middle of the party! I went to the bathroom and there was a framed pic of him, her and their daughter lying in bed together hugging when she was first born. I freaked out majorly but rather than causing a scene at the party waited then the ex called him to take pics of the 3 of them while the daughter blew out her birthday candles and with everything all at once ! literally almost had a panic attack.
After the fact at home I told him about the pictures and he said he didnt notice and hes sure she wouldnt have put them there because she isnt like that, she doesnt look for trouble (yea right) maybe it was someone else like her mom or her sister. I told him I would not go back to that house unless he resolved it. so then he said please come and I will ask her about it, we went back and he jokingly looked at the pic on the table and said, whats that pic hahaha. and the ex slammed in face down, told his mom she didnt know how it got there and everyone dropped the subject. Of course I was not satisfied with that but my boyfriend told me to let it go. When we went back to the house the pics was back up again! I freaked out again. told him again I would not go there until it was resolved, he went to pick up his daughter and said he would resolve it, when he came back home I asked what happened and he said the pic was not there anymore so he didnt ask. I was LIVID because from the beggining I had wanted to speak to her about it to find out why and what is wrong with her to think that that is ok but I trusted him to resolve it and then it seems like he is scared to confront her or something. Finally he agreed to call her and he asked her if it was her mother who put it there and she said yes and she was sitting next to her mother so she couldnt talk more and he was satisfied with that response. NOT ok with me.
From that moment on I have HATED the ex I did not believe for a second it was her mom, I think she purposely put it there to make me feel bad and I think now that shes single she may want him back or at least wants his attention. And even if it was her mom it doesnt really matter then her mom is the one who did it on purpose, it is still mean. To make things worse she calls my fiance CONSTANTLY like sometimes 8 to 10 times in one day! Whether the daughter is with us or with her, to ask what the daughter ate, where she slept(in bed with us or in her bed) to invite my boyfriend to her family parties, to invite his mother to her house, to tell him about her brothers surgery, to ask his companies name so she can put on a job application. And my boyfriend also calls her when his daughter is there I think wayy to often, like if she just spent the night and he dropped her off why does he have to call in the same day and ask how is she doing? I have never seen separated parents act like that usually each person has their days and that is that, RIGHT? am I the crazy one here???? PLEASE give me your advice and opinion because I am very scared and I dont want to deal with this for the rest of my life. As I said we are only here for a few months then are supposed to move to the US but is that mind frame like I'll just wait it out just running away from the real problem??? ADVICE PLEASE!!

And I have spoken, argued, discussed and brought up this situation MANY times with my fiance and it is still a constant problem.

Thank you!

One more weird random factor is that her and her family are part of a voodoo like religion of which my boyfriend is also part of and they have strange all night long party prayer sessions so I am worried she is like putting spells on him or something.