me and my spouse came to an agreement that if the kids (my kids) were doing something to annoy him that needed discipline, that my sopuse would come to me with it and then i would address it with the boys.  this did happen for a week or so.  but then the test began.  the test i didn't know i was taking.  he assumed that if he came to me with a problem with the boys and i addressed it, that i would remember that problem and address it every single time, without my spouse coming to me each time to tell me it was bothering him and to address it with the boys.  for example:  the boys tend to le