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Bm is so irritating

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Fri, 06/11/2021 - 2:49am

Long vent over very little but I can't stand the devious mare. Keep in mind the main things discussed in Dec mediation was clear communication and no going via ss and his phone when booking holidays /changes.

Well they took ss away this half term, only knew the week before via his phone. Just about gave us time to book a mini camping break too. We enjoyed it so decided to book again and take ss. IF dh could get the dates off work. Unbeknown to me dh has both cleared it work and told ss, so annoyed at the comms on his part too.

2 steps back

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Tue, 04/20/2021 - 4:00am

Quite often now I think ss is calming down a lot and might turn into an alright kid. Aside from the over sensitivity, and the constant bragging...

Yea well this weekend I could've drop kicked him back to bm!!! My bd5 has made friends with 4 boys in our street, nice to see them play out. Ss 12 befriends the oldest who's only 7, and wants to gang up and bd and the lads brother 6. Lots of name calling and arguing at which all parents were pulling them.

Generous friends ungrateful ss

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Mon, 04/05/2021 - 3:43pm

The mediation agreement didn't last long. last weekend but one ss had been enjoying himself in the street on the bikes and scooters, with all our children's friends one minute. Next minute (we can safely assume) bm had messaged him that she'd like to get him an hour earlier, as they were going to buy him a brand new bike on the way home, and he'd have chance to still try it in daylight. I definitely don't think he'd know what actual time it goes dark, as the clocks have just changed here.

Irritable

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 4:29pm

I'd only said to myself the other day how peaceful it's been, does this mean I subconsciously materialised miss piggy myself?! Shudder.

Hardly seen ss since Xmas, their house has had cycling covid ever since. We've just this week returned to usual.

Twice already I've not been informed that ss will be dining here so I've prepared him nothing (dh works late so ss usually eats at bms first) so this evening I was already embarrassed n had to throw him a pizza in when he asked what's for tea. Yes I've disengaged but the poor kid was really hungry. 

New year new disengagement

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Sun, 01/10/2021 - 10:00am

After the mediation that went horribly wrong, a lot of very good friends and family intervened, I am grateful they did really. I couldn't see any light at the end of the tunnel and dh was quite broken too. First we had the it's so close to Christmas just get through it for the kids (considering it was our fiest ever Xmas with ss 11 that I fought for probably an idea) so he went in bd room and she came in with me and tried to crack on. And Christmas was actually lovely it really was, I actually forgot for a while that bm is always there about to cause trouble.

Must've forseen my own stupidity

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Wed, 12/16/2020 - 4:14am

Is why I've been quiet on here. 

After my last blog I found a place to live and put down the actual deposit, good to go. The only reason I wasn't 1000pc was I was worried about the effect on bd5 emotionally, and she'd be leaving the nice only home she knows for well not the nicest. Cue dh bawling his eyes out and begging us to stay. Wasn't moved by that, but was actually moved when he promised to sort all the issues himself, for good, and phoned a mediator the very next morning.

Crying and moving out.

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Submitted by Lifer33 on Thu, 10/01/2020 - 4:34am

Yesterday evening myself and dh were discussing mediation. He said that  the lady said can you not talk to the ex at all? It's going to cost a fair bit of money to enforce boundaries. He understands she meant there's no big other deals to sort out like finances, but if we take ss phone he will stop wanting to come n other dramas. We've asked the ex nicely, not so nicely we get ignored... But we will email her one last time..

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