I've been a sm for only a few months of ss 5 and sd 7, they are here 50/50 and it has been very difficult to deal with the whole situation to say the least, their bm is pint blank crazy, (And heavily medicated)
I am currently not working cause I just move to the USA after i married and I'm waiting on work permit and paper work to be finalized. I take my sd to the bus stop and pick her up every Mon and tues and bm is always there watching me and taking pictures, then i drive ss to preschool and she is also there at the parking lot taking pictures, same when I pick him up. He calls non stop, leaves messages etc... But my biggest problem is that my dh is extremely apprehensive about his children and they are extremely co-dependent, they folow him every were he goes around the house, they demand that he plays with them every second of the day they will not do anything on their own, even when we sit down at the table to have coffee on the weekends they come and stare at us until he goes to do something with them.
Before I came they had no discipline, no boundaries, no manners, they decided what they wanted to eat, where they wanted to go and for how long and pretty much ran the show and my dh obviously let them do all that, now things are changing and I am going trough a very hard time, I am very scared that things will never change for the better and will only get worse and I ask myself every day...what did I get myself into?