So, after nearly 4 years of unfair treatment, accusations to my DH, unreasonable demands and verbal abuse, I FINALLY gave BM a piece of my mind. I used no expletives or unfair language at all, I was perfectly reasonable, and I told her exactly what I thought of her in a perfectly reasonable manner. In fact, it was so good, I think a judge would even approve, good thing, because I sent it in an email. So, tonight, my DH was listening to another slew of verbally abusive phone calls from BM, this time over what my previous post you may have seen was about, her sick daughter that she refused to take back home. Well, we did not want to see the poor child suffer, so we have her set up in a room separate from BD with a pallette, but that is somewhat beside the point. During all this, BM sent me an email explaining that DH has never been a good father (so untrue), that he shirks all kinds of responsibilities (he actually keeps them extra time and pays her extra child support), and also proceeded to tell me that she had informed her children that once the twins I'm carrying are born, they will probably not see their father as often. What! Who the bleep does she think she is? She not only upset them unnecessarily by telling them that, but she totally crossed the line. That is OUR business, this is OUR household, and this is OUR time with the kids. I decided then and there that I was going to put a stop to this nicey, nice facade, and so I wrote her an email. I told her that DH never complained to HER when she eloped with a man she just met, which resulted in her children being moved to a towns 45 minutes away from us, just two months after we had moved to be closer to them. This affected them far more than she will ever admit, and STILL she complains to DH constantly over little issues like him being 5 minutes late to pick them up on a Friday night, which, I must mention, is because she has forced us to do all of the transportation both ways since she moved so far away. His job is over 2 hours away from where she moved, and the tiniest bit of traffic and he is going to be late. Anyway, the point is, I FINALLY told her what I thought of her, completely defended my DH and what a good father he is, and told her flat out that we will no longer comply with her unreasonable demands that are not in the best interest of the children, but only her own. I told her that I had intended to never open my mouth about these things, but funny thing about pregnancy, you are suddenly more willing to be honest about things. I had my DH read the whole thing several times before I sent it, and cc:ed him on the email. And though I think he is a bit afraid of the repercussions, I think he was happy that I finally stood up to the b**** after all of these years. I have literally never stood up to her before. So, I will let you know what happens, it may not be good, but we will stand by DH's legal rights with the kids if we have to. She hasn't got a leg to stand on as he has been paying her extra for over a year, and has never missed a time commitment with the children. Well, that's it! Wish me luck on my ballsy move!