married for 10 years to a wonderful man with a spoiled only daughter and grand daughter. She has a mentally unstable mom,so Dad feels guilty about the divorce 12 years ago and constantly tries to make up for it. The stepdaughter is 18--going on 12. She is babied and enabled. We are spending 20,ooo per year her first year in college. She comes home every weekend (we go get her and take her back) She is very immature and dates a boy in high school-3 years younger.