Birth Grandmother posting memes on SD13's FB page about her being abused...
The past week, BGM has posted some memes on SD13's Facebook page. A couple of them were about holding your head high and walking away when people mistreat you, a couple about how if someone mistreats you it speaks more of them than you, and this last one says "Abuse does not have to be physical to be abusive..." It goes on and on about how abuse can be verbal or mental, blah, blah, blah. I am 100% sure this is aimed at me because I have recently disengaged from SD and SD is very pouty and whiny about it.
I told SD13 tonight in front of DH that disengaging from toxic people is NOT abuse, but rather self-preservation. She denies saying anything to her grandmother or mother about anything that goes on over here, but I know that to be a lie.
Has anyone else been accused of abuse for disengaging? Why in the hell would anybody think I should just stick around and let MYSELF be abused by all SD's bullshit.
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Um, NEWSFLASH DH, it IS
Um, NEWSFLASH DH, it IS rejection of your spoiled brat...
But then I've been very open with my DH about what I'm doing and why. I'm polite to SD13 and that is it. I communicate with her only when I have to and that is becoming less and less.
They might as well get used to it because there's a whole hell of a lot more "abuse" coming.
She thinks disengaging is
She thinks disengaging is abuse? She has no idea.
SS9 and SD11 used to go to
SS9 and SD11 used to go to bed when they wanted when they slept over at SO. When the skids and SO moved into my house I said bedtimes would be enforced and so the Skids have a 10:30pm bed time on weekends and 9:30pm on a school night. I still think these are too late but SO thought it would be too bigger change to make it earlier.
To cut a long story short, dumb BM had convinced her precious son that making him go to bed early is child abuse! They let it slip during a visit once, I laughed so hard and then explained that false child abuse charges would result in BM being arrested and charged and shed end up in court. SS hasn't mentioned it again, but I'm damn sure he is now convinced he's suffered child abuse when he has to go to bed early. The SD know full well it's not child abuse and she just rolls her eyes about how stupid her mother is when we talked about it.
I'd mention to your SD about how the court system treats people who report false child abuse accusations. I little warning never hurt, specially when it's done subtly. You could make up a story of a 'friend' of yours made false child abuse charges and they were charged in court and given a big fine. :). Even if your court system won't actually do that SD won't know that.
I've used little stories like that all along to get messages to BM that I won't stand for any shit. If she steps out of line I'll have her in court so fast her feet won't touch the ground. And I know her little darlings tell her everything I say. BM is weary of me and she's changed her behavior over the last two years. Still got a long way to go though!!
Somebody else mentioned the
Somebody else mentioned the same thing in a real life conversation I was having. She said she used to exploit her skids undercover-spy-behavior to send messages to BM and it worked like a charm. I'm going to have to do more of this }:)
My DH's only sibling passed
My DH's only sibling passed away yesterday and he was very sad, yet SD13 spent all day yesterday whining and pouting around and making everything about herself. She has no empathy for ANYBODY. If anybody is abusive it is HER.