DH did get out of the shower, eventually came out of our room. By then SD17 no longer hand her hands behind her head, which set him off again. She was eventually sent to her room before DH repeated his prior actions.

Within 10 minutes there was a scream followed by sobbing from the room and DH went to investigate. Younger SD had been in their room, reading a book, avoiding the fireworks. Apparently SD17 blames her sister for 'ratting her out' and threw a shoe at her, hitting her in the face and bloodying her nose. (Possibly broken/fractured per the ER doctor- will find out this afternoon when she sees the ENT doc.)

I took SD15 to the ER when her nose would not stop bleeding, I would rather waste hours at an ER waiting than deal with SD17. Tuesday evenings apparently are not busy nights and she was seen by a Dr within an hour. They asked what happened, she told them. Doc asked how old older sister is (37 days from 18) and he advised me that he had to call the cops. SD17's actions were battery/domestic violence against a younger sibling.

SD17 was arrested last evening. Battery and violation of probation/ diversion program- due to the battery charge. Deputy was uncertain if the battery charge would be upgraded to domestic violence or not said that was up to the district attorney's office. SD17 did try and have DH arrested for spanking her. Said he abused her. So they brought in a female deputy to "examine" her butt. Not a single mark on her.

Both deputies explained to SD17 the difference between discipline and abuse:

DH disciplined her: she was spanked, was SUPPOSED to learn a lesson from it and no marks/ harm came to her.

She ABUSED her sister bloodying her nose/ breaking it because she (sd17) was angry and wanted to lash out at someone. Male deputy pointed out that she sure did not lash out at her 'equals' ie: DH or myself who would have pounded her into a pulp. She lashed out at someone she knew was smaller and weaker than her, who could not defend themself against her. + she caused harm (bloody nose) with the potential for lasting harm/disfigurement (broken nose)= abuse.

DH, god bless him, has had enough. I really believe this was the last straw. He told the deputies SD17 was not welcome back within the house. I know a lot of you said last evening that it was a wonder she had a roof over her head: I don't believe she does any longer. DH called his parents: they won't take her. He called BM's parents, who due to the grandmothers health issues, can not take her. BM's father told DH last night the running family joke had always been that SD17 was BMs mini-me. But no one expected her to mimic her behavior straight into jail.

As of now, noone is willing to take the SD17 in and she may become a ward of the state for the last month of her minority.

It is almost 7am: I am going to bed. DH, myself and the rest of the kids have been up all night dealing with this mess. The younger three are doing ok. Exhausted, (and in sd's case her nose hurts)they spent an hour talking with DH about what has happened and what will happen from here on.