Someone should have warned me about SS ( AGE 11) who was sent to us out of the blue by BM because she wanted to attend school ( boy was that a bunch of bs- she couldn't handle him) SS had not seen his BF (my husband)in 5 years much less ever come for a visit so we had some sort of clue what we were getting into. SS is a manupilative lying piece of work who thinks he is the man of the house.
Tonight was the last straw, he comes home from school has a decent day, we do homework, he eats dinner and goes outside for a bit.
When he comes in I ask him to dry the dishes and cleanup his room and the crap starts, over simple things like hang up your clothes on hangers ( dress pants and dress shirts), clean up the room pick up arts and craft stuff we have a 1 year old running around the house too...He promptly tell me " No I don't hang up my clothes" I say " You will this this your dad and I's house you'll do what we say" It escalates and I want so bad to beat his butt because he is soo mouthy and disrespectful. He is not happy unless he creates some drama for the night and got me lividly angry. Dad is working 2nd shift (1-10pm) and can't be home he finally just got back to work after 6 months of unemployment.I did have this discussion with my husband- of my concerns he (SS) was going to make my life hell while he was at work.This is a regular occurence by this child and I am sooo fed up!

This child is going to make me crazy -I can't discipline him other than put him in his room , lights out take his cell phone and PSP game boy. If I say too much to my husband "I'm picking on him". My husband thinks whatever gets said between he and I should go back to his son about my feelings in this matter- I told him he is totally nuts and why would he want to fuel the fire even more to make this kid that much more unmanageable for me.
To further make things worse I found my husband is on singles and porn sites when I was checking history on the computer where my SS had been.
We have had SS living with us since mid August and we have no relief from BM or any other family as they are all out of state.
I am so close to wanting to leave and walk out I am open for suggestions.
I had a child ( who is now 28) who was just like this kid and ADD and I just don't know if I could go through the hell all over again and do this till this kid is 18.
These are supposed to be my good years ( I am 49) but I am totally miserable.
Help!

Just sign me miserable