:jawdrop: long time lurker. 1st time poster. my situation is the longest story ever....so I basically met my husband 5 years ago...we dated for 3 years and just celebrated our 3 year anniversary this past july. we got married and 1 year into the marriage a child popped up from a 1 night stand....he was found on facebook :jawdrop: that was a huge situation to deal with unpredicted but we rolled with the punches. 1 year later I found out he has 4 other kids from previous marriages. I had no idea. we never saw the kids but he barely had any contact but was providing financially only.