Hi, I'm just joined today because I'm so stressed out. Hopefully, your comments will help me.

I have 2 SD(14 and 11). Their Dad and I have two children together (6 and 1). For the last 4 years, SDs have lived with their maternal grandmother. It took us 2 years to figure out they weren't with their mom ever. My youngest SD begged and pleaded with my DH to live with us. My DH went for custody. He lost, $30,000 later. Both SD lied and said they did live with their Mom. So be it.

BM strongly dislikes DH and I. We have nothing in common.