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My wedding - MSD wedding - man I'm a nervouse wreck !

ISITJUSTME's picture

Submitted by ISITJUSTME on Wed, 07/09/2014 - 3:24pm

So I'm getting married next Tuesday - It is no secret that the MSD it not a big fan of me. So guess what we get in the mail yesterday her wedding invite for Sept. Ok may I'm making a big deal out of this but my heart tells me no. Why couldn't she wait a week to send that out so that my married named could be on the invite. Instead of my ex-name. I told FDH I'm not going to her wedding. I blog before what happen at the YSD wedding. I will not go though that again. Why can't he see how much that hurts me and why do I have to suck it up and take that kind of abuse from his family. Just because I love him. Let me know I'm just a little nutty at the moment.

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Submitted by oneoffour on Wed, 07/09/2014 - 3:34pm

It is just a name.... And MSD will more likely NOT be sharing the same name in the future.

Just tell DH that he is aware there is no love lost between you and MSD. So your gift to her is not to come to her wedding. She really doesn't want you there and you don't really want to go. So time for honesty and DH can attend his daughters wedding alone.

Make it about MSD feeling like she HAS to invite you and you know she really doesn't want you there.

Then tell DH that after her wedding you will be 'waiting' for him. Let him go alone. He may have some fun but he will miss you. Just do not have a meltdown. Suck it up and accept it as a done deal. If he says he is not going without you that is his choice. If he chooses to miss his daughter's wedding because you won't be there, that is his problem.

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Submitted by Shaman29 on Wed, 07/09/2014 - 3:34pm

Why don't you hold off on making any decisions until after you get married? Right now, less than a week before your own wedding, isn't a good time to make decisions like that one.

Focus only on your wedding next week. Enjoy a few weeks of married life and then talk it over with your new husband.

Congrats by the way. I wish you a beautiful and uneventful (if you know what I mean) wedding and reception. Smile

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Submitted by step off already on Wed, 07/09/2014 - 3:57pm

So is your name on the invitation or on the envelope?

I think you are nutty right now and you should breathe, relax, try to get all your final wedding details completed and then have a great time at your wedding.

you have the rest of your life to worry about SD.

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Submitted by ISITJUSTME on Wed, 07/09/2014 - 4:04pm

Envelope. I am nutty this whole SD's thing is driving me crazy! Good lord don't these kids have something better to do than sling mud! I have never witness such bad behavior and my FDH is complete dork when they are around.