I try to look at it this way. How many weddings could there possibly be? 2 skids equals maybe 2-4 weddings. As long as there is open bar, lol. I think we all can do a couple hours, especially with the help of a couple drinks.

I just don't want to be in the same proximity as Sasquatch - that's what gives me heartburn.

I can THANKFULLY, with 120% positivity say that DH would NEVER go to either skid wedding because he hates BMs and their trashy families THAT much. I'm sure he would give a gift and his blessing or whatever.. but he would NEVER be in attendance.

Hell the rate both skids are going though, DH won't even be invited and he'll be happy about that!

SO recently commented that when SS turns 18, he's never going to see or talk to BM again. Great, but what about weddings and Grandbaby births and their birthdays. It's really a life long commentment to this women.

I already think about it and SS is 8 and SD is 10.

I don't know what my role will be, if anything. My sds and I get along fine so I don't think exclusion will be an issue. I am also on good terms with bms family.

I think about this every once in awhile and my SD is only 6.

BM and SD will both expect my husband to pay for SD's wedding. He won't give them a dime because of how blatantly BM abuses the CS he gives her.

I'm sure BM and GBM will try to find some way to exclude me from the wedding. I don't think I'd even want to go, so that's fine. I often wonder what will happen with DD. I don't know what kind of a relationship the girls will have, so I'm not sure how involved SD will want DD to be with her wedding. Sisters often have each other as bridesmaids. SD doesn't have any other siblings.

ETA: I'm sure that BM will try to convince SD that BM's boyfriend/fiancé should walk her down the aisle instead of my husband.

SS31's wedding wasn't too bad because we were only in town a few days and did our own thing. We didn't have to do anything except show up to the venues.

I absolutely dread SD29 ever getting married. I know she'll expect "father of the bride" to pay for her crap. Not happening.

Yes, I think about SD16 future wedding. I know exactly how it will be, DH and I will pay for it and BM will get all of the attention and be the "mother of the bride" even though SD chooses to live with me over her mother and is happy with me more than her mother. I will be the silent outsider as always.

My skids are 13 and 11. Two of them are awesome - one... not so much. The only thing that brings me peace when I think about their future weddings is that my husband and I do not share a bank account. I make my own money, he makes his. If he does have to pay for weddings, it will not effect my finances in the least bit. And he's smart enough not to tell me what he will have to fork out.

We've talked about it briefly. DH will want to go, he will want me to go and DD to go. However, he has the good sense to realize that none of us are likely to be invited. BM's third husband (she's currently on the fourth) has a much better chance of being asked to walk SD down the aisle if they go traditional.

If we were invited, I would go for the sake of DH. To the first one. Any subsequent marriages and considering that SD has already stated that no marriage lasts, I'm expecting 3-6, I will decline. I will also decline to have us help pay for any of it unless so,etching Seriously changes. We don't donate thousands to people we don't have a relationship with.

DH and I have been through this 5 times. Wedding for OSD (now 43) he was still all naive with the "father of the bride" stuff. Wedding for OSS (now 41), only DH was invited. It was "too soon" after the trauma of their divorce, and xw's tribe wanted one more big show of abusing him. Wedding for YSS (now 30) was splendid - and here's why - the bride is a cod and knew the rhythms for step-family realities. They even invited my bd and her boyfriend to fly out for the event. It was very sweet to feel included. Same thing for MSD (31). Helped that by then xw had her own hubs to micromanage and we could strategically navigate through the crowd.

But this last one, YSD 23, was just awful. She's a hater, and her numb nuts "husband" is an idiot. And they decided that a buggy, muddy trail head in the UP was a fine place to get married. She was rude beforehand, during and ever since. It was just awful for DH, they treated him like less than the mud on that trail. I can protect myself, but to watch him get treated so rudely by these kids is intolerable. And it just goes on and on.

And now we are done with the wedding dramas.

i think its kinda sweet that you think of them having a Wedding. My skids will most likely just shack up with whoever and they will be lazy just like their BM so will not have $$$ for a wedding. Plus they would have to con some really stupid boy to marry them!!! lol
What I envision for SD18 is that she will be shacked up with some guy who just hangs around due to the amount of welfare she receives from poppin out babies since she treats them like puppies. For SD14 is see her hookin up with a convicted felon serving a life sentence. Yes, i believe she would be someone who would try being with ANYONE. lol