I'm hoping someone can help me figure out how I should handle my spoiled SD.  My DH does not see the way she manipulates him and always gets what she wants from him and her BM.  I have been married to my DH for 3 years, I love him very much and he is wonderful to me and my BC (I have a daughter and a son from a previous marriage).  Together we have 4 children, SD (15), SS (14), BD (13) and BS (10).  My husband works very hard and provides a very comfortable life for us all, including BM. But we are completely maxed out financially.  Much because we give too much.