Am I wrong?
My boyfriend has a two and 1/2 year old daughter who is with us every other weekend. Obviously since she is still a toddler, her sleeping schedule is early to bed, early to rise (7 pm- 6 or 7 am). This past weekend that we had her, my boyfriend mentioned that he would appreciate if I would wake up with her early on some days so that he can have a chance to sleep in. I told him that since it's not my child, I don't feel like waking up with her is my responsibility. Of course, I am willing to do a lot of things for her throughout the days that we have her, but I genuinely feel as though watching her in the mornings is not in any way my responsibility. Am I wrong?
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No, you're not wrong. If he
No, you're not wrong. If he doesn't want to be up with his own child, he should not take the child on his days. Maybe he could negotiate different visitation hours.
Are you f*cking kidding
:jawdrop:
Are you f*cking kidding me?!?!?!?
Ok, first, NO, you're not wrong. Not in any way. At all.
Second, if you were me, I'd take a LONG, HARD look at what kind of father he is. He cannot manage to get up with his child FOUR freaking days a MONTH?
I'm stunned. He's lazy. SUPER lazy. And he won't get less lazy the older he gets. Imagine what would happen if he actually had to raise this child and -GASP!!- get up with her every.single.day.
Nope. You are totally
Nope. You are totally correct - he had a kid, he needs to wake up early with here. Besides, it's only every other weekend and he seriously needs help stepping up for the responsibility?
She's not your child, she is most certainly not your responsibility and anything you do for her is a favor to him and her. If he didn't want the responsibility, he shouldn't have had a kid.
You don't say anything about how he took your response, but the fact that you're here, makes me think that he tried to make you feel badly about it. If he did, Seriously reconsider being involved with a man that has a child. Particularly if he isn't all over taking care of his responsibilities on his own.
If he picks her up Sat mng
If he picks her up Sat mng and drops her off Sun afternoon then it is only 2 days.
Honey, you are not wrong. This is what happens when you are a parent.
Dont do it. It will just lead
Dont do it. It will just lead to him asking you to take up more slack later.
I would say just like every
I would say just like every other person here that no you aren't wrong for telling him what you did. Exactly right, it is his daughter and she is his responsibility. You OFFER to do things for and with her, things shouldn't be expected of you.
My SO has his BS every other weekend, there have been times where I have heard him over the monitor and since I am a light sleeper just decided for myself to wake up and take him for his breakfast. Dad doesn't get to sleep for TOO much longer but I do let him sleep for a little bit. I volunteer to do that though, he doesn't ask me to. SO even tells me when he wakes up that I should have woken him up and that I didn't have to be awake with him. That is EXACTLY what your SO should do, by reminding him it's his daughter not yours is nothing wrong on your part.
Tell him that if he thinks it's rough now just wait until the both of you have a child together because he will have to do it even more often. Also tell him that when he has his daughter on the weekend he can be up with the both of them or ALL of them and let you sleep
I feel so much better now
I feel so much better now after all these comments! He didn't really get offended when I said that waking up with her is his responsibility, but he did say that it would be "nice" every once in a while. As of right now, I am expecting a baby and I told him that when the baby is born, I will gladly sacrifice any or all sleep just to be with her, but I have no desire to do that for his child. I firmly stated that the weekends she is here, he's waking up early whether he wants to or not. However, when it's just our baby in the house, i'll gladly switch off with him. It's only fair.