One of my biggest problems with being the stepmom the last 7 years is my dh thinks I should do all of his parenting duties. [This is my first post after reading this site like crazy, thank you to all here restoring my sanity] I've come to the realization after trying to disengage and set boundaries and it going no where I'm going to have to make drastic changes to get out of this parenting role, emotionally I hate it and I don't think I should be doing all of this.