Okay,so on Wednesday I posted a blog, but it was deleted. Or I typed then didn't post it. I don't know, I was completely lost. Anyways, it was a very long post and I can't retype it all like it was,so I'll tell you all that happened, with more detail as I have more time now. And i'm less upset.

I talked to my daughter, she told me everything - how she felt and what SD was doing. Basically my daughter felt powerless when SD attacked her because she's popular and her friends are like a gang-whatever SD says she has a group of popular people who'll make everyone support her,right or not. Somehow all kids in the school fall under the influence of less than 10 girls. But they're popular and if they all decide someone's not good, all the kids will hold that opinion too. Or atleast act as if they do. So when SD was picking on Bd in the beggining, she didn't do anything - thinking she's just angry because of the new situation. But it didn't stop, it got worse. So then BD stood up to SD,and she got far worse-influencing the children, attacking her every chance she gets,etc. The school staff knew that something was going on but didn't do anything as usually.

So then I talked to FDH that is not FDH anymore but I have no idea how to label him now. So I'll still say FDH. :?
I told him everything and he insisted that it's not his business to affect his dauhgter's relationships with other kids,if they're friends cool, if no,well f* it. BUT, I insisted that this is not a regular relationship and that he should take care of it. So I finally got him into talking to her. Though I said that if he doesn't make a change, and start it IMMIDIATELY, I'm leaving. So he said he'll try.
But before that we had a long talk about our relationship and basically we got to understand that it's very hard to make it work. So we'll try,but it may be over.

He talked to SD,said that she should not behave like that,but she then asked how is BD different than other kids? Why is she supposed to leave BD alone,if everyone else gets to "take care" of their problems with other kids. So he explained that it's not the same thing to take care problems, or even fight, and just abuse someone. She then said that she's not doing anything more than all the other kids,and that it's BD's fault for being so weak and sensitive. If all the other kids can take a fight at some point,so can BD. "It's not my fault that she makes no friends." I admit, I eavesdropped. But COME ON. I wanted to beat the shit out of her,but I kept my mouth shut. I thought he'd get angry at her,but he just said that she needs to leave her alone. So SD said that it's BD's fault too,and that 1 is not enough for a fight. So he said the following : "Ok, you fought, you did all this, now that you ''took care'' of it can you please stop and not do it again?", and the fact that he used the same term as she did : ''Take care of it'' , got me soo pissed. I mean COME ON,you're saying basically that BD really WAS a problem to be taken care of. So she said that "She has to fight people who make her feel bad and it doesn't matter if it's " that womans daughter " or anyone else" So then she kept on with that logic,and he let it go. He said OK, if she makes you feel bad you can solve it,but don't randomly attack her,that's not good.
So she said "I Never randomly attack, I do it when it has to be done." I don't know has he said anything, I had to move away from the wall then.

Then FDH talked to me again and basically after a talk again,we almost broke up. I told him that what he said didn't really put a stop to it as he allowed her to do it when "It has to be done" And SD doesn't really have a healthy idea of what has to be done and what is just a caprice. So he talked to her again,and all that I could hear was the end of conversation - basically SD was saying that we (BD and I ) were making her miserable and that's why she treated us the way she did,and even though BD was horribl to her (nope) she got more angry because of the situation. She said she felt unloved,unaccepted, unwanted and that she didn't feel at home when we were there. She said that FDH was choosing me over her,my hapiness over hers. So he said that she's a priority and she comes first, and there's no need to worry about that.

Then he got back to me,saying why she was doing it,blahblah,and when I brought up that he said she's a priority,he said that she IS the absolute priority untill she grows up.
So we talked more and it developed into a fight - so when I mentioned moving out,he brought d it, because BD feels better now. Still my heart is broken and I've been crying since then very often.

So when we broke up, I said that we'll be packing and leaving in the morning.
He asked if I wanted help with packing, transportation,etc. I said no.up breaking up. So we did. We fought more and broke up. It was strange how all my dreams were crushed in 2 hours. But I'm happy I di

So then FDH apologized to BD (not to me) along the lines of "I'm sorry it turned out this way and that you had a bad relationship with SD"

After that SD walked in , and said to us "Sorry about the way I acted, it was just a very hard situation for me" she said that with a smug look on her face.
Then she asked " Do you need help with packing ", with a grin. Yes, a grin. BD was shaken, I was on the edge of tears,she was grinning.

So her father looked at her all proud,he thought that what she was doing was "mature" so he even hugged her as they were walking out of the room. Basically she just talked him into breaking up and he was hugging her,proud of her. Ok,wtf.. No comment.

I started crying when they got out and asked BD to go to the bathroom to pack up the things.
I was supposed to go in the morning. But mayb 20 minutes later SD brought friends into the hous,FDH ordered pizza for them and gave them Cocacola. He then went out, and they started gossiping about my daughter once again. Except just that, they were yelling, screaming, laughing loudly and just overall being obnoxious. I felt that it was pointless to wait for the morning so I was already leaving ,but having them there made it even harder.
FDH got back into the house,they all shut up and acted like angels. He asked me what I was doing, I said I'm leaving NOW. He asked me if I want him to carry our stuff. I said no,and went towards the exit.

SD's friends were at the door,preparing to go out,but she was listening. She said "there is a god" which is a saying here for when you feel that something that just happened was right, fair, and so magnificent and wonderful that it only could have been done by God himself. I was gonna cry, but no. I just walked out.

We didn't go home that night as we had a place to stay that was closer,and she helped us A LOT,and I'm grateful to her for helping us.

Yesterday we went home.
At school, SD didn't even look at BD, completely ignored her like she did not exist.
So it got better.

And I'm glad that I did this,because it helped my daughter.

I wanted to say thank you, thank you all, because if it wasn't for you, I don't think I would have done much. <3