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Am I overreacting?

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Submitted by hollyissad on Mon, 04/13/2015 - 10:07am

Sorry this is so long.

I have relented to the fact that I, as non-parent, am not in control of parenting/rule-making/or rule-enforcing. I will, and do, say something if it directly relates to me, or I am the only adult around/in charge. Other than that, I defer to SO, and that has been working. SD6 is an EXTREMELY emotional child. I understand and accept that. She feels intense emotion, and sometimes needs to talk about it and other times needs to relax by herself.

Worrying about the future

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Submitted by hollyissad on Sun, 03/01/2015 - 12:11pm

Sd6 and I have a pretty good relationship. In the last month or so I have made the decision that my SO needs to be in charge of discipline and I will support him, back him up, and enforce his rules. I will be treated with respect, but will not try and push my own agenda. It has been working very well, and I have been feeling better about things.

How to respond?

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Submitted by hollyissad on Tue, 02/10/2015 - 1:49pm

For those who aren't familiar with my situation....SD6's mom passed away when she was 4. She is ok for the most part, but does say she misses her mom. Lately I have noticed that it seems to happen when she is sick or in trouble.

The sick part I understand...lots of people want their mom when they are sick. But I don't know how to respond when she is in trouble and says that she just really misses her mom. I know that you have to be sympathetic and compassionate in this situation. Still, it feels a bit like manipulation.

Somewhat OT...feeling blue

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Submitted by hollyissad on Mon, 02/02/2015 - 6:56pm

For those of you who, like me, are childless with skids.....

How do you cope? I don't mean those who don't want kids. I always say i have never felt more childless than when I came into their lives. It isn't that SD6 is terrible. I know I am lucky. She is a good girl for the most part. But I just desperately need a child of my own. Someone who I am mommy for.

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