This is the first time I post. I don't know what to do or if the feelings I'm having are justified. I have been in a relationship with my BF for over a year and we were friends for about a decade before we decided to date. He married his girlfriend from high school about 6 years ago because it was his duty as a man, since he got her pregnant. At the time we were friends and I was one of many friends who advised him against this. He was 21 and she was 20 at the time and since high school their relationship had been far from great. Always breaking up, fighting, just really dysfunctional. So him marrying her was not going to make it all better. Long story short, the marriage lasted a year and two months and she filed for divorce. She tried so hard to get him to settle down, buy a home, become super soccer dad and doting husband, all at the age of 22 when she knew he never even wanted to marry her out of love. Well fast forward to now, 6 years later and she's been making our lives miserable. We admitted to one another that we had always had feelings for each other even though our lives were on totally different paths. 3 years ago we decided to date and a little over a year ago we made it official and bought a home together. We are now anticipating to marry around April 2010. Let me stress, I have been in his life for a long time and I didn't want to meet his little girl until we knew for sure that we were in this for the long run. I met her December of 2008, when she was five. It took her about a month or two to warm up to me and then after that we began to slowly bond. It was great. Two months ago we moved into our new home and her behavior has completely changed. She does not talk to me when I talk to her or she'll roll her eyes and make an ugly face when she talks to me. When I ask her to pass me or hand me something, she throws it rather than hands it. We were sick with the flu a month ago and BM didn't want to swap weekends, she still sent her. Cue the spoiled 6 year old who won't stop crying and whining because me and BF are in bed all day with the flu and we're sick. When I had my Lasik procedure, it was done on the Friday that we had to pick her up. Of course BF had to help me around for the rest of the day as I couldn't really do much for 24 hours. If he'd hug me or get something for me, she would say "not fair" or complain that her eyes hurt too. We threw he a party at our home for her birthday that cost us 500 dollars, 250 of those came out of my pocket. This after she had a party with BM and her family. Well she was horrid, did not smile, cried throughout the party. Didn't thank guests for their gifts and had "stink face" the entire time. I did not get one good picture of her opening a present with her father. Not one. It made me so mad. She's started doing this whole crying bit where if she doesn't get what she wants or if we don't do what she wants, when she wants it, she'll start crying bloody murder. Then my BF caves in and caters to her whim because he "doesn't want to see his princess cry". This pisses me off beyond belief. his comments of "my princess can have whatever she wants" or "we will do whatever my lovey wants to do" makes me so mad. I can't say a thing because I'm only the girlfriend right now, but dammit it's my house too. She needs to have rules and consequences at our home as well. BM is a bitter bitch to say the least. Always making comments about us living our happy little stupid lives in our stupid little home. She's pissed because when she snaps her fingers my BF doesn't jump anymore. She has started talking bad to SD6 about us and now when she comes over she's just awful. Hell she's missed the last 3 scheduled weekends with us because BM makes herself conveniently unavailable at the time of pick up. Or when we talk to SD6 on the phone we can hear BM in the background telling her what to say. Which I can tell confuses the hell out of SD. I've become disengaged. I no longer care whether we get her or not, and secretly enjoy not having her in our home when her mom doesn't answer our calls or her door when it's our weekend to have her. I'm starting to dread the Fridays when we have to pick her up. I always hear BM make comments like "she wouldn't know because she doesn't have kids". Well guess what stupid bitch? I love kids, I just don't want any of my own and have been responsible enough to take proper care of myself in order to NOT have them. BM also posts up all her drama and talks shit about BF on her myspace profile which makes him look like he's a deadbeat dad, which he is not. He is at his wits end, she doesn't compromise and is intent on making his life a living hell for moving on. He's tried so hard to just make it work for the sake of his little girl and BM is just a bitch. He makes me upset because he doesn't enforce his visitation rights and the right to know all info pertaining to SD6, such as school progress, doctor's appointments, and therapist appointments. Yes! BM is making her see a therapist because she claims that my BF has led SD6 to have abandonment issues. He tries to see her! BM is just starting to use Parental Alienation tactics. I should know, I have a BS in Psychology and I know what she's trying to do. I just can't seem to make BF open his eyes. She's constantly on my myspace profile trying to dig for things. My page is private but if I change my status mood to reflect how I'm feeling on any particular day, she in turn thinks I'm referring to her and talks shit on hers. I'm starting to think "What the hell did I get myself into?" SORRY SO LONG. Just needed to vent. I'm to the point that I am indifferent to SD6. I don't care if she comes over and I don't care if we don't get to have her anymore.