Y’all know I’ve been struggling. This weekend I was ready to throw in the towel. I still can’t get something off of my mind. This weekend was a skids weekend. Friday he gets the call...SD17 isn’t coming over at all. SD14 will come Saturday night instead of Friday. SD14 asks what will we do when I get there and she gets the typical response...whatever you would like to do. So long story short, when it’s a skid weekend they show up when it’s convenient to them. DH expects me to leave those weekends free just in case. Ok then. Well SD17 turns 18 in one month! Yes she graduates too! I’m not supposed to plan the rest of my life around her for a visitation schedule right? According to DH...wrong!!! He wants to keep it up as long as she will come! Both skids have several trips planned this summer that they talk about but of course no one will give us the schedule. Are we supposed to sit around till the last minute? Well here’s the real reason I’m pissed off. That’s just background. My son called me and asked if we were free a weekend certain weekend this summer for him and his girlfriend to come and visit. Well I was tickled pink and said yes!!! My son only came and stayed with us once last year. This will more than likely be his one visit this year. I tell DH how excited I was and the first thing he said was are we free? I said I don’t have anything planned that far out. Then I get the...am I free? Is it my weekend with my kids? How the heck do I know? They don’t keep to the schedule! Even when it’s not our weekend we can’t plan anything! The last time we were going to visit my son for a weekend he couldn’t go at the last minute because SD17 wanted him to come to her ball game. The same one we went to every single Friday night. She told DH she was sure I would understand him canceling his trip with me to see my son. The trip was purposefully planned on a non skid weekend. You see no matter when I plan something my kids and I get the shaft. I’m tired of it. I’m tired of me living in his world with his kids but he doesn’t step into my world with my kids but I’m rare occasion. We bend over backwards for his kids. The resentment is stacking up on my end. It’s getting harder and harder to be nicer. I just know whenever I bring up my kids coming to visit it’s a major ordeal. Everything we do is bigger and better for his kids. He treats them so differently and picks fights when it comes to my kids. He even gets upset avoid taking mine out to eat when we visit them. We pay CS and take his kids wherever they want every other weekend! Grrrrr!