So, I had already told my SD5 not to climb on the fence once and also told her that if I caught her doing it again that she would not be playing with the neighbor kids for the rest of the day. I caught her doing it again. So I told her she needed to come in. She was sobbing in her room and I left her be so she can think about what she's done as I didn't send her to her room just told her to come in. My DH hears her whimpering and goes in to comfort her. He starts talking to her about it and asking her why she did it and she lied to his face and said she never climbed on the fence. He asked her "then why did SM send you inside?". She said I don't know and said she didn't climb the fence again, then DH started on a new topic like it was no big deal for her to lie to him!, so I walked in and I looked at her and ALL I SAID was "Lying to your father is going to get you into more trouble". Then stood there. DH got mad because I said something, not contradicting him, not yelling, not talking over him, not doing anything but telling her that she will be in more trouble if she lies to her dad. So he stood up and stormed outside to have a cigarette and I followed him and said he had no reason to be angry with me for actually parenting her and not allowing her to lie to his face like she did. He went off and started saying that I am too hard on her and I'm always just mean and actually called me an evil stepmom! From his own lips! I got really pissed and dared him to call me that again. If those words ever leave his mouth again, I will leave this house. I will leave for as long as it takes him to realize that he only parents when he finds it convenient for him and that he had no idea how good he has it with me here. If I go, she will lie to his face, manipulate him into getting what she wants, eat too much candy and sugar, refuse to eat dinners and lunches, not use her manners. He will probably starve, get frustrated with his homework and with SD, get overwhelmed with all the chores or the house will become essentially uninhabitable, and have no time for himself. He is so selfish! I admit, I should have just let him deal with her, but I was not going to just stand by and let her disrespect him like that, even if he would!!! I never even created a front of disjointedness. I believe I was helping him but he sees it as me overruling him and thinks I do it just to be a bitch. I was trying to CREATE a united front and uphold SD's respect for him. He was the one who created a disjointed front by getting pissed and walking away instead of telling me later how he felt about what I did.... UGH! Next time, I will just let him deal with everything. I'm just going to start avoiding her whenever she's here which will mean a lot of time spent alone in my room or outside or at the barn with my horse... because if I let him deal with everything, I will start to hate her.