I'd like some input & resources from those familar with disengaging.  I have 3 skids, SD17, SD15 & SS13.  My final straw was last weekend when SD15 hit my dog in the face with a pillow.  There's no consequences, and when DH does try to enforce (which I have to give him credit, he does try), they just run to BM who let's them walk all over her and do as she pleases.  I'm tried of the stress and anxiety that comes along with caring.  If they want to tell and scream and call each other and their parents names, then so be it.  I just need to be able to step back and only care when it af