BM texting me from SD12's phone!!!!
Dear God when will it end!
Sunday morning around 10am I spoke to SD12, told her I was heading to that end of town soon and that DH would be leaving for the track with DS7 in about an hour. SD12 said she would go as BM if she could go and would text/call back.
An hour went by with DH and myself calling and texting her with no response.
Around 12:30ish I get a response from SD12's phone saying "she said no"
I respond right away with "That figures. Im so sorry sweetie. Try to enjoy your day okay."
Then I get a response about 20 minutes later stating "Bitch please". W. T. F?!?!?!?!?!
I then respond with "huh????" "SD12's name?????" With no response.
So I send SD12 a message on FB asking her if her mom had taken her phone, and she said that earlier in the day she had.
Crazy %$#$^% called me a bitch from SD12's phone!!!! I was about to jump out of my skin I was so mad! One day, eventually, I will get to say what I need to say to her and what she needs to hear. My goal at that time is to make her cry crazy baby snot tears!
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It is in response to what I
It is in response to what I said. But a little bit of background. Until BM was served with the custody papers SS & SD got to spend Friday after work till Sunday after dinner with us. Now BM only limits their time to 12-9 Fri and Sat.
Who is she hurting here? Us of course and the kids, most specifically SD12.
That is where my comment came from. Because BM is malicious and now hates DH because he is trying to take some of the control she cherishes, she is flipping out.
I see your point. I doubt
I see your point.
I doubt that my one comment that can be taken a number of ways will be the focus when you have BM taking SD12's phone from her to keep her from talking to DH or I. BM logging into SD12's FB account and blocking myself, DH and DS7. BM logging into SD12's FB account and erasing messages from me to her.
The history behind the comment does matter. It matters a lot! Maybe not to you, but to us it does.
I am not encouraging SD12 to be mad at her mom. BM is doing a terrific job of that herself. SD12 and I conversed the day prior to this about if BM would allow SD12 to go or not. I told her to not be surprised if BM says no.
BM would probably be correct.
BM would probably be correct. Because, that's most likely why BM said 'no'. Limit time with BD and SM as much as possible. As far as psychoBM's are concerned, no good can come from kids having fun with SM and BD.
Oh yes, BD and SM's are the
Oh yes, BD and SM's are the most horrible creatures on the face of the earth.
Nothing good can come from enjoying outdoor extracurricular activities, fresh air, exercise, uninteruppted family time! That stuff is horrible for a kid!
I wonder if you had texted,
I wonder if you had texted, "I figured...(then the rest of it)..." if she would have reacted the same way. I think it's likely that if you had texted something along the lines of "I sure hope that sometime soon we can go to _________(wherever it was) together" and left off the part about figuring she wouldn't be able to, BM would have freaked out anyway. I think Rae Rae is right- BM does not want you and SD to be able to bond together, and will do anything to prevent it.
Yes, your original text could have been worded differently, BUT my guess is that if SD doesn't see by now how her mom is, she will soon. BMs like these benefit no one by not hearing honesty from people around them- I think ours just surrounds herself with people who tell her she's fabulous (then feeds them a steady diet of lies, omitting the REALITY part of her stories involving DH and the EVIL SM)....and while you may want to process this with SD the next time you see her (and keep taking the high road), I am glad BM saw it because maybe she'll think about what her problem truly is...or maybe she'll dig in deeper....but either way, it sounds like you and SD have a good relationship- may it continue, now and after she sees what a psycho her BM is!
Thanks MJL - I think that
Thanks MJL - I think that there is always something that could be changedd IF you could go back. But it is what it is. SD12 and I do have a good relationship. There are times it is tested but she is a pre-teen with pre-teen horomones!!!!
I do hope it continues, as does the great relationship with DH, DS7, my mother and so on. Hopefully if we keep taking the HARD high road we have been then things will go in our favor.
There have been plenty of times that I've wanted to bash BM verbally to SD12, but that isn't right. We have got to let her see BM for what she really is. It's the only way she will truely understand and hold no type of resentment towards DH or I.