After having counseling on Monday with BF (separate appointments) I was thinking that it might take a while to really see some results. I am surprised as anyone, there was one last night.

Usually, SD10 will make fun of SS12 and look at Daddykins for a laugh, which he usually does! Last night, we had one of BF's friends over for her birthday. SS12 was showing off for said friend anyway and had already been given a warning from BF. SD10 and SS12 were teasing each other as usual at the table when SD10 said something that I really thought was over the line. I looked at her with the mom "disaproving" look. She looked at me for a sec then looked at BF. At first it looked like he was going to laugh, then he caught site of my "look" and told SD10. "Back off on your brother, that is enough teasing."

:jawdrop:

You could have knocked me over if I had not recovered so well. Inside I was cheering!!! I also know how hard it was to do it. I can at least recognize that it will be very hard for BF to stop treating SD10 on that pedistal. BF also stated that everyone was showing off for the friend that is not here very much too. They all love her and me and my BD's don't know her very well. SS12 for the first time in a while whined about doing the dishes when BF told him to. But, he did back talk, so he deserved some punishment.

It is a small victory, but I will not discount it! It is a step in the right direction!!! After all the trouble that I see on these boards from guilt parenting, this is noteworthy...

Now to see if it can continue!!!

Take Care!