i have insecurity issues and can't stand my fiances exwife.

she is always trying to draw him into conversations having nothing to do with the children. she wants to discuss her bills and lack of money (yet he sends her over $1600 in alimoney and child/s.

she trys to hug him and touch him in anyway she can. when she first saw me she court ordered that he could only pick up kids at her mothers not her house. when she started picking up kids from our house she told him she was never going to pick up the kids from there because she couldn't handle that we were togethar and what she lost.

so of course these actions make me not trust her and then i get furious with him. i have an exhusband and between us we have 4 children. we have created a loving and good environment for our boys ages 9,11,14 &14. yet i can never control my anger when she does things that are inappropriate.

why does she want to be buddy buddy? why does she want to discuss her finances or crack jokes on the phone? why does she want to hug him or touch him?

i just feel that all these things are inappropriate. he has told her in the past but yet she ALWAYS reverts to her same self. i was in a bad marriage, infidelity, physical and emotional abuse and none of this manifests with my fiance. but her trying to be close to him is something i need to learn how to deal with. i know he is done with her and loves me yet i still get so angry and i take it out on him.

he's fed up with me getting angry at the things she does and i love him so much im so scared because he is the best beautiful human being i've ever met.