OK ladies (and men ;)) I am totally out of ideas on how to deal with this man. I'm lost. I have a daughter who is suffering the consequences of me not being able to get across to that man how he hurts our daughter.

For some reason after being reasonably calm and easy to deal with he again came out from under his rock in his normal Ding Dong fashion. Our oldest daughter is in junior high where they have switched to this new "core teaching" method and grading. They only get one grade a week. No homework is graded. It is of course checked over and such they just don't get credit for doing it. Anyway, our daughter who gets A's & B's normally flunked her weekly science grade last week. With it being the first week in the new grading cycle she of course has an F for her average. This leaves her ineligible for the week in extra-curricular activities. Luckily for her Quiz bowl regionals aren't until next week. Anyway Ding Dong found out about the grade on Monday. Yesterday he proceeds to call the teacher and gave her an ear full. He yelled and screamed at her, told her she couldn't teach a rock (insert your own sarcastic remark here), he called her a few inappropriate names and then proceeded to hang up on her before he gave her the chance to defend herself or listen to her plan for helping our daughter get her grade up before next week. The teacher then calls me to let me know what Ding Dong had just done. She then proceeded to tell me what her plan was to get DD's grade back up. I apologized to her for his behavior and she was quick to tell me it I had nothing to apologize for but she wanted me to know what he did so I could prepare our daughter because he will tell her he "stood up" for her and she will be mortified.

So, while he makes an a** of himself in front of another teacher I can handle that one but......it continued into the evening. The same DD made the cheerleading squad for next next year and last night was the parental meeting. Yep, you guessed it Ding Dong showed up. Everything was ok until the meeting was over. Ding Dong proceeds to tell the sponsors (who are also teachers at the school) when he will have DD at practices and when he won't. He told them that his summer vacation was for his use not theirs, the prices of camp and uniforms was to expensive and he will only pay a certain amount and they will have to eat the rest. He then tells our daughter about the "little talk" he had with her science teacher. Right there in front of her new cheer friends he announces she flunked science last week and that he talked with her teacher. I could see her wilting under the words he was saying and I grabbed her and sent her on an errand only she could do (I had some quick thinking to do on the spot let me tell you). By the time she got back he was gone.

I again, tried to fix the mess and impressions he left on the sponsors. I don't care what they think of him I just don't want any negative treatment towards our daughter. The sponsors assured me everything was ok. Time will tell I guess.

What do I do with this man?? I already had everything cleared with the sponsors about his vacation. I never even though about asking him to pay for anything because he has a fit if I miscalculate medical bill by a dime. DD is so embarrassed. She didn't want to go to school and face the teacher or her friends. Again, she ends up embarrassed and he doesn't see where he did anything wrong. I realize she has to learn about the type of man he really is but its so hard watching my daughter go through the motions. Its like watching her in a train wreck and you can't stop it. And to think I have another 9 years of this.

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