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Court was scheduled for today........but no more!! :)

Ex4life's picture

Well, we were scheduled to back in court again this afternoon for a long term/permanent RO against my EH, Ding Dong, for abusing our two daughters. We are standing at just short of a year, 11 months, that this has been drug out. Yesterday his attorney passed on an offer of supervised visitation of 2 hours every Saturday at a local eating establishment. His last offer was supervised visitation with his parents supervising but it was to be his normal EOW and 2 weeks summertime vacation. Uh no. Not even no, but H*** NO! I asked the girls what they thought of this latest offer. The youngest could go either way. She was not the one the took the majority of the abuse. The oldest one said definitely not. She doesn't want to see him at all. So this morning I called my attorney back to relay the message on that I had one no and one maybe. He just called back to tell me that Ding Dong is giving up!! I don't even have to go back to court this afternoon. There will be a telephone conference between the two lawyers and the judge at 2:00 to decide on the final guidelines. I will know tomorrow when I pick up the paperwork just how long this RO will run for.

I am so giddy with happiness that I keep breaking out in a dance. I am so relieved for my daughters. They will be safe. They do not have to testify against him in court. No child should ever have to so that. They can go about their lives and not worry about what will happen the next week or next month. They won't be embarrassed by him and his actions during school or extracurricular activities. On the other hand, I am sad for them because they don't have a father who puts their welfare ahead of what he wants. Those of you reading this know the feeling.I just keep telling myself "At least they are safe!"

So, grab a glass of your favorite beverage of choice. Here's a toast to those of us parents who work hard, sacrifice our time, talents, money and sanity so that the children we love have what they need to live and thrive in a safe and nurturing environment so they will in turn grow up to be a positive member of society and maybe one day be a wonderful parent to their own children.

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Anon2009's picture

I am so glad your kids will not have to deal with their abuser for a long time, at the very least. They're in my prayers & I hope they're doing ok.

Anon2009's picture

I am so glad your kids will not have to deal with their abuser for a long time, at the very least. They're in my prayers & I hope they're doing ok.

Ex4life's picture

Exactly Scubed. He turned down chances to them during the holidays as well.

The girls are happy. They do wish they could see their grandparents, but I seriously doubt that they will even try to see the girls.

Now, you have me wanting a Peach Snapple tea. LOL