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Cancelled my wedding

Esoternica's picture

I found this site trying to understand why ! I'm a 40 something with two beautiful well adjusted 20 something daughters with there own lives. Stayed in a loveless marriage to raise them. Finally no child responsibility and meet the man of my dreams who is a single dad of 8 year old son. How hard can that be ....? Well it's complicated... & I cant understand why I’ve issues,, i recently cancelled our wedding cause of the way the potential step child makes me feel. I just don’t get it ... and neither dose he , he's furious! 

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hereiam's picture

Better to go with your gut and cancel it, now, than to decide after you're married that you've made a mistake. You may not understand why you feel the way you do but that doesn't mean you should ignore it. There is a reason.

whathaveidone89's picture

Just here to give you some encouragement on what sounds like a truly heartbreaking situation <3

Esoternica's picture

Its so fresh right now and dealing with the fall out . I just don't get how I tried i prehaps lied thinking i can handle this but blaintanly i cant. :( 

CLove's picture

Whatever it was that was off between you and kiddo, it would have gotten SO MUCH WORSE.

So - you dodged a bullet! Good for you for being honest.

SteppedOut's picture

You have successfully raised your children. Starting over raising someone else's kid, or even having to live with someone else's kid is difficult at best. Particularly if they are not/haven't been raised to your standards. 

Better to break it off now, than to become bitter and resentful having to live with someone you do not like.