SD15 has been with BM since the Tuesday before Thanksgiving. Although I was apprehensively thankful for this turn of events, it made me anxious that she could just as quickly re-appear as she did the last time.

Apparently BM decided to go away this weekend and tried to pawn SD off on teenager friends and then SD's 1/2 sister (where SD didn't want to go) so SD took off for the weekend. The police told BM the last time that SD15 ran away that if SD does this again, upon her return BM is to take her to the emergency room for evaluation which BM did Monday night. After being questioned by the police and the health professionals, they decided that she needed further observation in a psychiatric facility(I guess because she was being defiant towards them?). The part that doesn’t make any sense to me is that BM has been taking SD to concerts (she took her to one the weekend before Thanksgiving and another one just recently). When DH asked BM how she possibly though that could be a good idea BM started off with, “I don’t know what else to do to get through to her,” then it changed to, “She passed her drug test this week and I thought it was a good reward,” then to, “It was a birthday gift.”

He said to me, “It’s like trying to work with the village idiot and a 4 year old. There’s just nothing I can say or do to get through to either of them.” DH just thinks it's a lost cause and many believe that the stone is already cast.

I told DH yesterday that BM needs mental help just as much as SD. It’s like BM is setting SD up for failure. When one of you made the point that BM "created the monster by treating her like a best friend during her parents' break up and now that BM has a boyfriend, she’s rejecting SD and acts bewildered as to why SD is acting this way," or something to that effect, it was like a new light was shed on the situation. I think SD really is mentally ill but I think BM contributed a tremendous amount to that end.

Oh, and please tell me why BM would think going away for the weekend when she has a troubled teenager in her custody would be a good idea? As DH says, “SD should be on total lockdown until she can start acting like a human being.” No tv, no ipod, no computer, no hanging out with friends period. BM doesn’t see it that way. You’re 15 and about to be expelled from the School System, why don’t you stay with friends this weekend or better yet, let me take you to a concert because you went for a few days without smoking pot! There’s some coherent logic for ya!

And to top if off, it's not like BM is new to the parenting game, she has 3 other children that have made it through to adulthood and are productive members of society why is it all falling apart now?