I would welcome piece and quiet. DH has full custody of SS12, who's behavioral issues seem to not change at all or worsen and they just seem to keep pushing us apart. We have opposite parenting styles but because I've never been a mother I don't get it or I'm suppose to be able to handle, SS12 constant lies, tantrums, disrespect, arguing over everything like showering, and stealing (which escalated from using our CC to stealing from school)..idk I'm honestly getting tired of the chaos, DH made the comment " if i don't change my attitude towards SS12 that it won't work out." my attitude is that I'm tired; I want DH to discipline him even if the kid does seem to get it (doesn't ever seem to care about consequence), when I'm upset I need space- i just can't turn my feelings off when the kid throws a tantrum (yelling, the I hate you, get out, go away), simply bc I asked him to get of the xbox. I can't switch the button off as quickly as DH. and yes Its gotten to the point that i have to force myself to believe any word that SS says and I dk think I want a biological child anymore. DH makes comments that reinforce the thought that he truly only wants a mother for SS; and our relationship and me come last. I've scheduled family therapy and SS continue in his own therapy; maybe that will help. I'm trying so hard not to shut down, be positive, and bring up the loving feelings I have but honestly its become harder.