So I have been married for 3 years and have a blended family with my wife. My biggest struggle is with SS16; his BF has not been involved in his life for the last 7+ years, and he was basically the man of the house until I came along. Needless to say we both had some getting used to. He's a good kids and we generally do alright together. Here's my biggest struggle: My DW has a very different philosophy of parenting than I do. I am assertive and keep kids accountable, expect them to pick up after themselves and be respectful. If they choose not to then they have chosen the consequences.