I have been married for 15 years and raised sd 21 and ss 19 bm has always been a huge pain and caused as much grief as she could yet not providing any $ or support and seeing the kids a few times per year. SD idolizes her and is a huge drama queen even though I have worked 2 jobs devoted all my time to make sure she and her brother have never wanted for anything, had a car , braces,ect. her mom is the greatest and we continually runin her life currently she is not speaking to us for 3 mo.