The Plague has made it perfectly clear on numerous occasions that she has no intention of ever letting DH see SS again. We live in CO and they in GA, so doing pro se is out, and at $5000, we can't afford to retain a lawyer.

SS's toys that DH got him Christmas 2009 have been sitting here unused since then, so DH finally decided that he should send them to SS. DH, of course, is deployed, so I got the honor of handling it.

I know for a fact that the Plague lets DH's mom see SS on SS's b-day every year - or at least she has every year since the divorce. The Plague has a history of contorting reality, so I called MIL and *ASKED* if she would prefer that I send them to her (instead of directly to the Plague) to give to SS on his b-day next month, and my reasoning behind it. She says that sounds like a good idea, she agrees with everything I say, and she's all for it. I wait 'till DH calls and run it by him first to make sure he likes this plan. He says yes; it sounds good. So, I pack up all SS's toys and mail them out to MIL. I had guessed it'd be about $50 to ship it all; turns out I was off by about $100. Anyway, I shell it out, and off it goes to MIL's.

So today, I get a call. "You didn't warn me about that second package." I'm confused for a second, then realize she's talking about SS's stuff. I tell her I sent her a text message letting her know it'd be 2 boxes and an envelope; so she says, yeah, but you didn't tell me the boxes would be so big. Again, I'm confused for a second, I *did* tell her I was mailing *all* of SS's toys b/c they were never going to be able to be used here. But I apologize to her for any miscommunication.

Then she changes tactics, "Why'd you spend $100 on a gift card for him, anyway?" Oh, I don't know, because it's his birthday soon and his dad wanted him to have something from him. "Well, you should have saved that $100 to put towards a lawyer." So at this point, I'm wondering if this is the same person I talked to a week ago about this whole thing.

She continues with, "How much do you think it'll cost to forward it to the Plague." I tell her, I don't know, but tell her how much it cost me and that I guess it'd be about the same. "No, it won't cost as much to get it from my post office here in Insanityville, GA to hers in Stupid-Bitchtown, GA. I'll find out and let you know how much you need to send me." I explain that we can't afford that; I already overspent getting the packages out to her in the first place. If I'd known it was going to be such a burden, I would have had them mailed directly to the Plague to begin with. Then, here comes the guilt trip with that added you're-a-bad-daughter-in-law twist, "I just feel like now I'm stuck with all of SS's stuff. You should have just mailed it to her yourself or gotten rid of it there in CO. Now, here I am with all of SS's toys in my tiny apartment, or I'll just have to leave them at the post office and they'll eventually throw them out." :jawdrop: I end the conversation with another apology, re-state that I thought everyone was on board with this plan, and that it was never my intention to burden her.

Good God, I'm so pissed! If she didn't want to deal with any of this, she didn't have to. It was a request; she could have said no. No explanation required! I'm so tired of being bitch slapped with the olive branch I extend to this woman; fuck it, I'm burning down the tree.