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Update

So I told DH that I am ready to end things. I told him I never want to be in the presense of SD9 again. She is verbally abusive to me, sleeps in bed with her dad, and calls BM to have her threaten me..for no reason. I never discipline or say anything to the child. My husband never sticks up for me. He is at his parents house with her for Labor Day weekend. I need to end things before he starts wanting to bring her to my house.

Leaving

I am finally divorcing my emotionally abusive husband. This weekend SD 9 visited. He blamed all her horrible behavior on me. He screamed in my face in front of her "take your medication!" He blamed my DD 15 for his daughter's behavior as well when all my DD did was babysit her all weekend. That was it. It is MY house. My DD and I came home and SD began to act out and he said "everything was fine until you two got here. You weren't supposed to come back to the house." Excuse me. This is my house which I pay for and he doesn't. I never want to see him or his mean daughter again.

Follow up

So I suggested to DH living apart and I am obsessing to him about it. I am not an evil step mom. This 9 year old has been verbally abusive to me and gets into fits of rage since she was 5. It makes me physically sick to be around her and I can't eat. Whenever something happens that she doesn't like, she calls BM over and over again crying and BM threatens us but never follows through. Now BM has her BF move in who can't stand SD. She will be at my house all the time especially with no school in the fall. I cannot continue these visitations. They are going to put me in the hospital.

At the end

So I am ready to leave DH. Here's the issue...he is unemployed and has no other place to live. He is not unemployed through a mutual agreement. I have begged him to get a job. So now it looks like BM may be getting evicted...again and he will get full custody. He has no money and no place to take her. We have been married 3 years. Am I responsible for them?

Had it

So I found out that dh is telling his ex wife that we have been fighting about his daughter. He also told his ex wife about my anxiety and how he and my mom are trying to get me help. He also told his ex wife that I said I wanted to go to my parents during his visitation because it is too stressful for me. He said all this to his ex wife during pick up. She told me. He said all he said was the truth. I have been with his daughter all day today because he said his back hurt. The ex wife threatened him with no more visitation if he cant get out of bed.

Losing my mind

So my SD 9 has a big problem with women. She is nasty to BM, nasty to her grandmother and I just try to stay on her good side. She worships her dad and needs to spend every second with him during her visitations including cuddling with him to fall asleep on a mattress on the floor next to our bed because she refuses to sleep in her own room.

My crazy life

Some of you may have seen my post about dh and I going down to BM house for overnight visitation with sd8. She has a brain injury which affects her emotions and will not travel to us during the virus. Strangely this is fantastic for me because BM and I get along and sd8 is kept in line by her mother.

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