Feel Bad- But not really
I feel and got hurt on 12/18 and had to have 6 screws and a plate into my right ankle. I am a sales rep and have to drive for work. So, needless to say I am not working and will not be for the next 3 months.
I have a pretty flexible career, so I can be there for my stepsons when they need a parent. Days off from school, I schedule off as office days etc. In the last few months BM, has decided I am a have personality disorder. While I find it quite humorous- my stepson 13 who is typically my #1 priority I am done. He was born with spina bifida ( bm didn't take prenatals- not sure if it is the cause, but didn't help it for sure) and also on the autism spectrum.
I am home now for the next 3 months- I have nursing at our home and deal with the state to pay for it and I carry the insurance prior to medicaid paying after private insurance runs out. BM refuses nursing saying she doesn't need it but, when their is no school- kids is at my house. If there is anything he is here. I love my stepson but, the back in forth is just getting crazy. Here, he has to wash himself, cut his food, and push his own wheelchair.
I sent an email to both BM and DH 2 weeks ago and said yeah- if I was so self centered I would say he can't be here with me home. We are day 2 into DH at work and just me and the nurses... he refused to eat yesterday and tonight refused to shower himself. I sent an email to both of them and said Saturday morning when my DH coaches SS10's soccer team's 1st indoor game of the season- ss13 needs to be with his loving and mentally stable parent. My DH actually backed me up!
I feel bad- but, I can't walk and have a 2 year old bioson to deal with and nursing doesn't cover soccer. If ss13 was behaving I still probably not going to deal with it. I have been called self centered and just simply done. I know he has paid enough for his mom's mistakes but, how much does my son have to pay for?
BM is underemployed to be there for her kids but, is often to busy to show up to anything to include her childs soccer games. Guess what- she is going to have to go and be there for her own son's soccer games and take care of her other son.
I hate to do it- but, I have the kid in behavioral therapy and BM will not follow the plans... so what do I do? I know STOP!
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If one of the BMs said that I
If one of the BMs said that I had a personality disorder, there is NO WAY that I would help them with their kiddo while they were working or doing whatever it is she does with her time. Her disabled child is HER problem. There is no reason you should be caring for him when your DH has something else to do.