I am married an i have 2 kids a 7yr old and my stepson is 6 months older then my 7 yr old i also have a 2 yr old so we have mine yours and ours. however my marrige is in trouble because im over the step son and the baby mama who is a total ghetto fat lady and how my handsome husband was ever with her i will NEVER understand. she is a horrible parent and is money hungrey once her check didnt get to her house until the 1st of the month ( its useally early) she showed up at my house.her and my husband use to argue all the time so i started to be the go to person when it can to visits until recently all hell broke loos when it was said that i treat him mean and my child is mean to him, see the thing is my SS dosent look like my husband at all to the point that he has doubts about him our son looks just like him!! so i think the baby mama and SS get jelious. however her and i got into a bad arguement beacuse of her saying i treat him like sh*t and so does my daughter i dont let anyone talk to me like that i dont care who you are so we went a few months with out speaking to him or seeing him then she has her new husband call mine saying i need to stay out of it and everything needs to go through my husband and baby mama, i have been to games picked him up bought him cool shoes (becasue the mother buys him such ugly stuff) and now i have to stay out of it, so the other day my hubby talked to her and i feelt so upset my husband should have told her something stuck up for our family!!!! but now its just putting a hudge wedge between us as a family i dont want to be around that kids nor do i want my children around him since he so aboused by all of us. im not an affectionate person i dont hug him yes of couse my kids i do cause they are mine but my husband says im not close to his kid now its turned into us ignoreing eachother kids!!!!!!!!!!!! help advise please