SS wants to leave next month
After the whole situation with bm, SS told us last night he will be leaving and renting his own place next month in the city. He says he has enough money for rent, daycare and other things. I do not get how he making so much money. I am ashamed to say it but I cried in front of him. I dont want to lose my only hope of having a grandughter. I fell in love with her completely. She makes me feel like I am 20 years younger. I cant lose her. I think SS was surprised at my reaction. He didnt say anyting after that and just went to bed. I hope the old SS is still in there somewhere and will think of us before he moves. My husband and I will be heartbroken. And my husband wont be able to handle it. He has heart issues already. My husband tried talking to SS in the morning before he left for school (5 in the morning, my husband woke up early) but SS wouldnt listen. How do we make him stay 
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Sadly this is all true. Offer
Sadly this is all true. Offer your support the same you have been. Help him with court issues with his mother (from previous post) and hope that he'll at least have you in thier lives. As an adult now, he prob feels like he should be out on his own, so regardless of your offers to have him stay- he'll still move out. But you can always offer babysitting service for at least one day a week and pitch it like its a favor to you guys to see your granddaughter. Best of luck.
I really dont think its okay
I really dont think its okay for a soon to be 18 year old boy to be living in the city with a 14 month old. And he goes to college, and he has multiple jobs. The baby would be better off with us while he's busy with school and work. But what some of you have said is right. We can't force him to stay. But I really don't want to stop seeing my granddaughter
I'll be really upset. My husband is going to approach the subject again and see if he can convince SS to stay. I hope for everyone's sake he does. I can sort of feel SS softening towards us, especially me. I think seeing me upset and crying about them leaving might have made some sort of impact. Hopefully.
Not sure if this would help,
Not sure if this would help, My parents cut me a deal I couldn't say no to, they did most of my babysitting. The deal was rent free, they would help with babysitting as long as I was in school. Maybe this is a possibility for him?
there are a lot of issues
there are a lot of issues with SS and us. I wrote about them in my second post I think. Right now he pays us 250 for rent and 200 for looking after the baby. He refuses to let us do it for free. He has a lot of resentment towards his father. I just hope he'll be able to get over it soon.
You are absolutely right
You are absolutely right Katrinkie. But it's pretty hard to convince a teenage boy that he is wrong. SS has been nicer towards me lately but still is VERY angry at his father. I just don't know what to do. And thanks for your kind comments.