All of the time! You just can't let them know it irritates you.

I am hoping that one day BM will get married... probably wishful thinking tho.

I legally changed my name back to my maiden name when I got divorced. I did, however, spend the next 7 years using my kids last name for anything to do with school. It just made it easier.

1. Cost of changing her name.
2. Confusion with school and children over different last names.
3. It is her name, too and she is used to it.

I didn't change my last name when I got divorced. There was no reason to go back to my maiden name which was my father's, not something uniquely mine. Although the judge would have put it in the divorce decree had I chosen to change it, the effort and cost of getting it changed would have been mine. I did take my new husband's last name when I remarried but my daughters were 17 and 20 by then and old enough not to be confused by it. It took months of filling out forms and going to the Social Security offices, the bank and the DMV to get through it, not to mention changing it on every account in every office I've ever conducted business with or purchased from. If I hadn't remarried, I'd still be known by my ex's last name because it was mine for a long time and changing it was a pain. It would never have occurred to me that someone new in his life would have seen it as spiteful or deliberate.

Probably so the school is not confused as to who she is????

My DH and his ex got a house name sign when they married "The .....'s".
He didn't take it with him when they divorced and when we call by (very rarely now as the boys are older) it is still there by the garage. It pisses me off a little but then this is also the last name she has as well as her sons. And anyway, would I want a display of my name on my house? Not really. ID theft and all, but still the Child Within still gets annoyed. But then I remember she always kept DH out of any plans because he 'isn't family'... after being married for 18 yrs. And now her house has HIS last name on it. BWAHAHAHAHA! }:)

I changed my name back to my 1st husbands name, after my 2nd divorce - only because its the same as my childs. Its much easier to have the same name, and that is the ONLY reason I did it. My exH didnt care.

It drives me nuts too, but whattaya do about it?? Nothin. I am just hoping she gets married some day. And when she gets divorced from that poor unfortunate soul DH will tell her she better not change her name back to his name. She can use her maiden name. She just wants to have the same name as SS, which I suppose I understand. It just wasn't that big of a deal to me to have the same name as my girls. They have their dad's name.... I have my husbands. It is very common nowadays.

I do have a very dear friend that actually hyphenated her middle name to include her sons last name. So now her name is "First/ Middle- Ex's last name/ NEW husbands last name". I think she is crazy. Her new husband was not crazy about it, and her EX threw a fit... but she is stubborn. That's what she wanted. LOL.

Crazy witch did the same...the excuse? Yep, the same as here..."cause it was my kid's last name". What a crock as far as I am concerned. I have never had my son's last name, never will. He is STILL my son. People get confused? They're stupid. Too bad.

As far as crazy witch, funny she claimed that was the reason, yet she had TWO OTHER DAUGHTERS that did NOT have the same last name as her. So, what do these mothers who keep it to have the same last name as their kids do when they have other kids with their new husband? Yes, the crazy moron ex kept my DHs last name, but her two kids with her husband had her husband's last name...lol She CLAIMS she finally changed it. I highly doubt she did legally...she probably only started using her husband's name although not even legally...

PS - DH's divorce papers specifically stated "BM WILL CHANGE HER LAST NAME"...so after a couple of years of her doing nothing, DH showed her the papers and told her he'd make an issue of it if she didn't change it...

I loathe the thought of my BF's gold digging cheating c*** XW still having his last name...and the thought of his spawn having his last name too so I am seriously debating if I just want to keep my last name that my son and I share or if I want to just hypenate it to say "mine-his" or vice versa.
My BF really wants me to take his last name but the sheer thought of having the same last name as two people I wish would fall off the face of the earth really does get to me. May sound petty or ridiculous but that is just how I feel. Oh well!!!

So...I will most likely keep my last name but obviously people will know that I am married because the ring and all should hopefully give it away...lol

Yeah bugs me too. Dh's ex has no reason to keep his last name as she has hardly any contact with SD and it's been 7yrs since they got divorced.

To all those saying its too much of a hassel to change your name back, you didn't find it to be too much of a hassel to change it the first time did you!!

As for having the same name as the kids, well thats understandable, but its not about the kids being confused, its about YOU not wanting a different name to them. And what happens when you remarry? Are you going to keep exh name?? I'm sure new husband will be thrilled with that! And any new kids??

My mother didn't change her name back after her and my father divorced. I always found it weird and even embarrasing that she was clinging to this idea of us all being one family. It was especially wierd when we would see my fathers family. She still has it even though we are all adults now and she has a SO.

The bm in the posters case seems to be trying to ruffle some feathers. She has already gone through the BIG HASSEL of changing her name back but then signs it as exh's on a peice of paper shes knows him and the poster are going to see.

I used to feel the same way as far as the exw dropping the last name, I was adament about doing everything we could to get her to do it but it's like my BF explained, anyone can change their name legally to whatever they want. You can't tell a person they can't so there was nothing we can do. Also, my boys have my last name, not their father's and I'm super proud of that. MY family helped me raise them ( I was very young) and I want them to carry my family name on. So on that note, as much as I can't stand the exw, I get why she would want to keep the same name as her kids, bc I feel the same. We don't plan on getting married and honestly, even if we did, idk that I'd want to take his name and not have the same as my boys. It's different for everyone and I understand why an ex would want to keep it.