DG~don't let this misunderstanding upset you. I would have thought that most adults would realize it was a typo, just as I did when I read it. I knew immediately that you just made a mistake, for those who you thought were friends that would hold that against you...well...they weren't really friends. Some people love to wait for the first thing to pounce on..like a cat wiggling it's butt just waiting, and unfortunantly your typo gave them a toy for a few minutes. Let it go girl, it's isn't worth it.

~J

I have reread the posts by said girl and I'm sorry but I think its someone taking the p***...or maybe I am just a cynical old witch! }:)

It wasn't clear that it was a typo because of the story that followed the statement. But if it was a typo, then let it go.

However, I strongly suspect that the "13 year old" is probably a former member or just someone trying to ruffle some feathers. If it truly is a 13 year old, I'm sure their parents would pull the plug on the internet (or at least I would hope so).

This is a public site. Did you really think a skid wasn't going to be smart enough to find this site and it's contents? Really??
If you don't like something, ignore it. Don't make such a big deal about it.

You might want to think about being a little more compassionate, too.

I'm very suspicious myself, D....

As a high school teacher and the mom of an 18 year old whose parents divorced when she was 3 (and she survived and thrived, although ours was NOTHING like described), I'd love to chime in and help this child.

However, given the tendency toward BMs finding SMs, prank posts, etc., I'm wondering if this is even a real "child" or some angry BM/troll just causing chaos (again) on this site.

My advice to that child would be to visit her GUIDANCE COUNSELOR in school to be referred to a support group/professional counselor who deals with these issues. If the parents are so dysfunctional, she's barking up the wrong tree thinking they are going to help her. She definitely needs some outside intervention, if, indeed, she is a 13 year old girl....

Only time will tell, I suppose...

I didn't take any offence. If it really is a 13 year old SD, she doesn't belong on here. I am surprised she hasn't been blocked yet. This is a place for Stepparents to vent. We need to feel we can do it here, since we can't do it at home. It doesn't hurt anyone specifically what we say here. It helps us so that we don't lose it on our spouses or the Skids that are making our life hell.

Let it go. Everyone needs to ignore her posts. Don't feed into it.

I assumed it was a typo too. I also agree that she needs to find another site. IF it is even for real.

I think that if this girl is indeed being mistreated, truly mistreated, then she needs to seek the help of professionals like a school guidance counslor, or Child protective services. I haven't read her posts, so I don't know her situation. We are annonymous users here who can't really help this child. We can listen. IMHO - If we don't like what she is saying, or if we don't believe it is true, then we can choose not to read her posts. If she is posting offensive remarks on some of our posts, then we can mark it as offensive.

I understand what you are saying, that this is an adult site that was intended for STEPPARENTS to vent. But as I have seen we occasionally get a few trolls or angry BMs. This could indeed be an angry BM posing as her disgruntled 13 year old daughter to try and gain some sympathy for the girl. Who knows...

I didnt think you were out of line at all. Your response to her was a lot more kind than some of the responses you are getting. Please dont take what some people are saying to heart.

I was not attacking you. It seems that you could be reading posts with a tone of voice in your mind that puts you on the defensive.

We all have a right to post on any public board that we please. I am a COD and I have a child with step-parents. I can offer some insight and POV that others may not have. I come here to try and understand what my child's SM might be feeling or dealing with. At the core, I want my child to have a better life growing up in a blended family than I did. And if I can offer any insight or offer my experience in a situation, I will. I try very hard to see past the crap that offends me on here (and there's a LOT of it). I just feel that a little compassion would've been better than what was going on here yesterday. It gave me the mental picture of a pack of dogs marking territory: stuff like, "This is OUR site!" "Go somewhere ELSE!" "We don't want HER reading OUR posts!" That's what bothered me. A little kindness and compassion may have made all the difference. But we'll never know. The responses this kid got may have just cemented in her mind that most stepmoms really ARE bitches.

JMHO.